So I originally linked this subreddit as a joke when I saw that r/raisedbynarcissists wasn't fitting, but then I really began to read the place. I thought I'd share it and see how you all respond to it as it's own topic:
r/NarcissisticAbuse
I can see it. That bickering match does remind me of some of the nonsense that goes on here.
wtf was the point of the argument anyway? There was something about who's supposed to clean the fridge and something about how is the girl going to get to the doctor and something about fair payment for said chores (tho I do suspect the mother is exaggerating in the extreme when she quotes the girl asking for $600.) Other than that, the whole thing is a pointless mess of ad hominems, finger pointing and comparisons to some absent brother who can't possibly be doing much bc he's never around.
Fwiw, he is the smart one. That's how you deal with crazies like that woman. Smile, flatter her, do smthg brief but meaningful to her, brag for a few minutes about your great life and then leave again.
It's a shame the girl has to rely on an idiot like that. Idk how the 2 of them manage to co ordinate their household tasks at all.
It amazes people can go on mental health forums and whine about people like the woman in this video. She is abusive but rather mild IMO and to me looks easy to mute with a mental remote control. This is what spoiled brats consider abuse. Sure, show a psychologist a check and they might dx this woman with NPD but come on lol
by Pink01Every year since twitter has been popular I see these tweets. Last year (or two years ago?) they were filled with "I got the wrong colored iPad I hate everyone". I find that with things like twitter and facebook people have a hard time containing their thoughts that should stay in your head...wait until we have companies that will come out and offer employers condensed backgrounds of an applicants behavior online. Tis will be glorious.
I hate some of the Christmas gifts I get. It's just a gift. Keep it in your goddamn head.
That being said... just, some of the kids on this twitter need a lesson. As in spending some time at shelter and returning all the gifts/money they got. (I'd do it to my kid if they said something like this for the whole world to look at) Different lesson however then poor victim girl in the abuse video posted by TC that read too many psychology forums.
I agree with this. Having a nagging annoying mother can be shitty and draining I guess, but it's not fair to compare that "abuse" to getting real beatings, being starved, raped and demeaned the way some kids are. This doesn't change the fact that the annoying nagging mother is your own problem, while the more serious abuse is other's. And your own problems, no matter how small, are what make an impact on you. Say you crushed your car, it makes you unhappy, even if you rationally think: hey there are people who don't even have a car. You break a rib, it still sucks even though other people have cancer.
Think of this. I read some whining forum rants from you about you being harassed by an "unpleasant" someone who would leave you voice messages. Hell, you bitched and whined and made it seem like a really big deal. Would you have liked to be treated as you suggested, be told to suck it up because your first world problems are nothing compared to starving kids in Africa? Tbh, even for an outsider as myself, being around an unpleasant nagging mother all the time seems more draining and a bigger problem than some other person leaving you strange voice mails from time to time.
That said, ofc it's healthy to put your own problems into perspective sometimes by comparing them to others, if it makes you feel better. Some things are easier said than done though.