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Forum, how can I form long-term goals and stick with them without spending all my time, energy, and money on what I see in front of me?  

Just keep in mind I am a selfish prick who has little home training.

LOL!

Or he could just turn into a psychopathic criminal.  Seems easier.

For a self-proclaimed empath, that's not very empathic. You sound grumpy and should have a Snickers bar.

oh daddy, you're so fucked up in the head. still leaving those crumbs around huh?

by AlmightyJim

As some of you might have heard before, I've been on an introspection quest for a year and so to find out what the fuck do I want from my life, which led to an existential crisis 2 months ago that left me acknowledging how empty and shallow my life and values were, which was happily ended by a realization that what I was seeking was experience,novelty,thrill,stimulation,exploration instead of achievement, glory, dominance, status and wealth like I was thinking I am seeking. I've realized I find no value in possessions and I would happily trade them for moments and experiences that seem to be tend times more rewarding for me at least emotionally (i.e instead of possessing a beautiful female I'd flirt and share moments of sexual vibes, instead of saving money I'd earn lots through big efforts and blow it on fun things to give me more experience, instead of holding a high position in a company I'd work up the hierarchy then quit with a fat stack)

I want to hear your opinions on why one would prefer short-term sensations to long-term possesions.

Because seeking immediate reward is easier than working hard and sacrificing things for the long term goals. You can earn your endorphins or just inject them in your veins. We as animals are prone to take the easy way. It's something about brain chemistry. For long term goals you need focus and patience, and some people have more trouble with those than others. Think adhd. Or wonder why some people are prone to being addicted to substances and behaviors while others have no interest in those. Our minds have different strengths and weaknesses, just as our bodies have. Some peeps can run the marathon with little training, some with more training, some will never be able to.

Maybe you're lucky and your mind can succeed with some "marathon" training. The key is to find a balance. Chasing long term goals and not living at all in the present is letting your life go to waste. Hell you can die tomorrow and you get the short stick. Also, being stuck only in present fun won't last forever and there will come a time when you look back and see your life has been empty.

by batshitcrazy

You can fuck, marry, trick, or do whatever you want. However, you will never get anything more than short term sex from me. .

Hahaha, oh man. Why would anyone want more than short term sex from you? Come to think of it, why would anyone want even that?

You can seek out stimulation and also work on the long term. It can help to overindulge for a period of time to "get it out of your system." I lived as crazy as I could for about a year. Eventually everything caught up to me and I settled down and I'm a law-abiding citizen now for the most part. It was a great time while it lasted.

You do eventually need to have some sort of "next step" in mind, or you will burn out. I had a buddy who lived solely for the moment, who would not listen to me when I said he was headed for trouble. Currently he's homeless in a city on the other side of the country. Find something that lines up with what you enjoy doing, however small of a step forward it is. That's at least how I see things, everyone's different though.

Also I don't think achievement is a bad value. It's a good way to bolster self-confidence. Achievements don't define a person though. One of the smartest and funniest people I know is a high school drop out (he did go on to get a GED), and he hasn't really made anything out of his life. That's not a big deal to him though, because he has fun where he's at.

This is the first time I've seen you put up a post that almost has your guard down. Then you go back to trying to sound like you don't care. Find out why you do that, and the answer to this post will follow.

I liked the honestly and genuineness of the original poster. Than I read the comments of bat shit crazy and almighty Jim's correspondence ; and I was like wtf almighty... bat shit crazy has really revealed something significant to you. Don't take that for granted . You two need to fuck like extreme hard core pornos and also love &respect one another with integrity and devout care for one another.  Yes you can have both.  The other gals won't keep you warm longterm. I get the sense this gal will keep you warm and role play within yr's and her desires. She seems like a keeper. Fight through yr PD and know you deserve a happy life with significant meaning. A life worth living will have to build on longterm  success through yr short term actions. Choose wisely. Play with her and only her. She said she loved you. Don't throw it away. 

Short term sensations happen in the present, your not suffering so you have nothing to complain about.

Long term goals could involve having to cut back in areas, this can make the present pretty shitty if you are not able to do what you want for the possibility of something in the future.