I'll try to make this brief.
I'm positive she is a sociopath. It was a friend zone relationship for me that I would avoid, due to her "you are like a brother to me" messages, but I would spend time with her whenever she called or came over, we went out to do stuff etc.
Regardless of my aloofness I did have a rather large place for her in my heart. I've always taken her for one who would send out a lot of mixed signals, so on the most part I would never know what to do with her. Only toward the end of our (i guess) friendship did we hug. Post date, I never initiated I hug with her because of the mixed signals, so eventually one day she just hugged me. That first hug was a very quick arm grab and she called it a hug. I believe she was shy, she's not pleased with her body cause she lacks curves. Me thinking she probably dislikes being touched I never hugged her, but late in our associations she asked for one, and followed with a quick surprise hug another day. I know it sounds lame, but I was still confused as to what she wanted. Maybe I still am but I somehow feel like a failed to make a move when I should have.
She called me to meet her downtown for her birthday. Just her and I. We went to an expensive restaurant ( Guess who covered the bill ) But that day she was looking depressed, she was going on about how she hates her Mother and such. I think i heard her tell me something like "Man up" but how can I when she is in this rarely seen by me, pissy mood.
When we left, she wanted to change out of her tight skirt ( we had bicycles locked up waiting for us ) so she went to change inside a hotel next to us. I ran across the road to avoid the red light, looking back where she stayed she pointed at a hotel on her side where she wanted to borrow a room to change. So I went in after her and waited in the lobby.
After awhile had passed I went outside and her bike was gone. So I sent her an angry text saying how she ditched me. She sent me a text saying "I thought you ditched me, I was so pissed, I'm at ( the so and so shop) I don't want to go home yet." I said to her, "You never saw my bike was still there ? Where's your brain I'm at home and I'm done for the day goodbye"
Now she ignores me. When I saw her the next day ( Cause she literally lives next door ) I said Hi, she kinda said hi then her voice choked up as her head turned toward me, then her face went blank, then she proceeded to go inside. I wrote to her how we should patch things up, forget what happened and I invited her over for a drink. She wrote me an e-mail saying how she doesn't like me, never liked me, and never will, then told me to cease the harassment or else further action
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So I caught her in a lie, and she can't debate with me about it cause if she did insist she never saw my bike, then she would have to admit she never cared to look for it which was 7 feet away from her.
She lied to me many times and I just brush it off or played dumb. I did research on silent treatment, and my intrigue got me into reading about all this psychology stuff. At first my amateur Googleing diagnoses of her was that she was a narcissist. But a friend told me to look up sociopath. Perfect.
This sociopath stuff is interesting. I am annoyed by this, but none the less interesting. I believe you ( the sociopath ) are at times honest, and I do not assume you are at fault for being that way, as much as I am not at fault for being as I am. Right now if you please, I'd like your opinion or suggestion as to what the hell might she be up to. Normally I'd just suck it up and move on, but I have to live here, and seeing her is almost like a bad dream I cannot wake from. You'd never understand to this degree, but for those of us that are not sociopath, this is like watching someone you care for die and be reborn before your very eyes, and now it seems they are your mortal enemy.
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