by StayonhereDoes anyone who is close to a borderline need to take "breaks"? Meaning you are not trying to punish them or abandon them, you just need a respite.
The breaks happen regardless if the one whose close to the borderline wants it or not.
Anyone who becomes close to a borderline, is very likely to have strong feelings for the borderline, and this is the sole reason why the borderline can do massive damage to loved ones, and not the new ones, quite yet.
As for taking breaks. Believe it or not, the one who loves the borderline, again, the one who is willing to stick around for the abuse. They do NOT desire breaks. What they want is the person they fell in love with, which at this point is apparently possessed by what can easily fit the description of evil entities or demons. Not saying they are possessed, but to the one who loves the borderline, it literally seems so, and I'm not saying the borderline is not possessed either, cause they just might be. After all, fearing abandonment while being talented at self sabotaging ones relationships is pretty evil.
When they do take breaks, and again, we're talking about someone whose been through the ups and downs multiple times with the borderline and remained, I repeat this cause I cannot stress how noteworthy this kind of status is, and we're not talking about any ass, this person really loves the borderline case. They will distance themselves when they are under the impression their presence triggers the borderlines mood into a negative state. They will also stay away if the relationship is utterly hopeless, and it will become clear the best thing to do is stay away, especially if the BPD doesn't call. This actually makes it easier, and when time passes, it's easy to remain distant even when the relationship becomes cordial.
The borderline fears abandonment. And in many every most cases they are likely the first to push or be the first to bring silence to the relationship.
This information is not meant for broken bitches to start acting like broken bitches and start clinging onto what seems like power then start damaging their relationship even more.
Making people jealous or even attempting to, is an obvious and childish act. And the amount of attractiveness it produces is absolute zero. Whatever the target knows, it is indeed a self destructive action.
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The short answer to the question is... It depends on the person.
If they have these attributes
- intelligent.
- Capacity to understand.
- cares to adapt or attempts to.
- Sweep the bullshit under the rug and acts like everything is fine.
- Can be described as a tool or doormat.
Then this person is not likely trying punish the borderline, while those who lack these basic attributes are.
