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LOL. but yea i miss her too, minus all the narc supply BS.

by Helena

 

by thesugargirl

by showing off and trying to one up her at every opportunity. again this most likely goes back to your drive to compete with other women because your father didn't love you. you're weak, pathetic and have said nothing of any substance, at least not to me. ;)

I have an Honours degree in Psychology, and the only people I've heard bleating about competition between women are the borderlines and the histrionics. 

 So you have a degree in psychology and don't see how frequent female competition is? WTF, I've seen it plenty and had so many headaches because of it and I'm not even female. It's natural for people of the same gender to be competitive. If you look close enough, it's always there, more or less sublte, and influences relations between people a lot, imo. Men get competitive too, but it's usually a more obvious/direct form.

the subconscious does exist.

At least you did pass the class. Chemistry can be a difficult subject to study.

Has it occurred to you that because of your depression, you may not be able to recognize your own anger (in the past or in the present)?

by Edvard

Whoa...From an outside perspective at least, both you and Helena seem really bitter and hateful against sugar, while I've mostly seen her trying to prob and prod you with questions, to understand you two. You're both very patronizing and haughty towards her. It's a form of distancing yourself from someone, being that haughty and patronizing. It's like running away from them, but "upwards" instead of "horizontally". I wonder why's that, if she didn't strike a nerve or two in her interaction with you...

That's an interesting perspective.

I have not interpreted TSG's obsessive questioning with attempts to understand anyone here, myself included, however. Rather, she tends to relate her questioning back to a desperate desire of her own to prove that other women share her need for female competition; a need that I myself have never experienced. As it happens, I have been drawing myself closer and closer to TSG in this thread, and she's been withdrawing by repeatedly projecting and then retreating beneath her stock-standard defense mechanisms: envy and anger. The Sugar Girl runs when her questions are met with responses. She doesn't seem very interested in understanding anyone: how can she be? She doesn't even understand herself.

With that in mind, it is easy to see why Pinky jumped to her defense. Pink clearly resonates with Sugary Poo - or, at least, Pink's teenaged self did. Pink remembers what it's like to be a confused, angry teenager and TSG's posts have become increasingly juvenile in nature as the months have progressed (I mean, come on - look at this thread!). Pink has stated in the past that she has been known to leap in to defend an underdog and that's precisely what she thought she was doing here. By doing so she was also defending the teenage self she lost years ago (she's progressed a lot further than TSG, though. Pink sounds like she has regrets, but no real longing to return to her teenage years for a do-over, which is what TSG seems to want more than anything else in the world). In the end, all Pink ended up doing was shrieking about the things she so badly wants me to believe, which leads me to believe that she's transposed her fears onto me. She lost control of her emotions. The Sugar Girl, however, has rejected many chances to claim to be either inebriated or young, both of which would excuse her increasingly poor responses to the criticism she begged me for in January of this year.

I do like your way of thinking, however. It's very unique. I've not yet read Mike Hunt's posts so I cannot say whether or not I believe that your statement applies to him (and I probably can't do that anyway: only Mike Hunt could do that, and one would need to be willing to admit to the hostility you've noted, which I am, but for a different reason: I see The Sugar Girl as being weak. For as long as I can remember I have despised women who allow men to stomp over them and who then squawk that their lowered status is somehow the fault of other women. This is precisely what The Sugar Girl does every time she wails about female competition).

by thesugargirl

how can you be so confused about the line when you agree that your father probably didn't love you. why are you telling me your dad's dead, i don't care. why do you feel the need to prove me wrong?

Surely you aren't serious.

I'm confused about this line because it's never bothered me whether or not my father loves me. I can acknowledge that he probably didn't because as a sociopath and a psychopath he was incapable of love. This has never bothered me. If I knew my father all of my life - and I did - how would I actually know what his love felt like? I myself have never loved anyone.

So with that in mind, I've never had to devise strategies to "win" the love of my father the way you have. Who knows - maybe your father was incapable of loving you - or anyone else - and you're incapable of accepting that. Hence you return to the theme of female competition to win the affection of a male father figure. So, you crave love: that much is obvious; yet you feel that it is constantly denied to you. I don't mind admitting that this confuses me even as I acknowledge that I think I can understand it, to a certain extent at least.

Let it go, Sugar. Love doesn't buy you anything. It doesn't win you anything. I don't know if you can win love but your experiences would suggest that you, at least, cannot, or have not, and therefore probably won't. Look for opportunities to gain power. I would take power over love any day (I know what power feels like so yes, I'm biased).

What would love give you, Sugar? How would you hold on to it? How would you know it for what it was, or is? Power buys you money and favours and something that looks like love (it's more idolatry than love, of course). Power allows you to behave like a complete savage and get away with it every time. What could you possibly gain from love, be it your father's or anyone else's?

Chemistry at lower levels is not very difficult, it's when you get higher up it is definitely quite difficult lol

Well I guess anything is possible...but I feel neither depressed or angry at the moment. Nor do I remember the last time I was. but I don't refute the possibility i am just detached 

I was hardly an angry teenager lol...not a really angry person at all. and the only thing I regret about high school is taking college chemistry my senior year...because the instructor was a bitch. And I almost failed it. but if you want to label me with teen angst that is quite alright

all I said in relation was this is that she's just a kid. I leap to the defense of underdogs...lol if i said that there is a 100% chance i was just joking. I don't know the sugar girl at all i was simply stating she sounds like a kid to me. and therefore your very long, drawn out psychomumbo jumbo is a waste of your time as well as hers.

try again in 15 years or so lol

She says that because she couldn't handle your rejection in a typical sexual situation. If it's rape then it's a surprise and doesn't have to deal with the no's. Tk is a sensitive one.