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Someone once said to me, it isn't how well your positives go together - its how well your negatives go together that is important.

I think this is true. 

It is also not how you feel about the other person, but how you feel about YOU when you are with that person. 

Some people are just incompatible. 

Sociopaths do lie. This is true. 

Yet sometimes I have seen some of the most honest posts about relationships, from sociopaths, who have the ability to see it as it is. 

Sociopaths accept people for who they are. I like that trait. They also fight for them, even if they fight with them sometimes. I like that trait too. 

I don't think sociopaths should be with people who are

- Vulnerable

- Needing someone else to complete them

- A people pleaser

Its a recipe for disaster.

The other person knows the relationship is doomed, that's why they are pushing away. They probably see it as better to end it now than to get even more attached and suffer worse pain.

Is it possible that you weren't quite as distant initially? That maybe you were open at the start to allow this person into your life? Now that you feel they are captured you may possibly be letting yourself transition back to your true nature. These characteristics, though may be what drew them to you in the first place, could be difficult to deal with if they are presented more consistently. 

by positivagirl

Someone once said to me, it isn't how well your positives go together - its how well your negatives go together that is important.

I think this is true. 

It is also not how you feel about the other person, but how you feel about YOU when you are with that person. 

Some people are just incompatible. 

 I agree. I wanted it to work. Though I can't force it to. I know this and if I have to move on I have to move on.

by positivagirl

Sociopaths do lie. This is true. 

Yet sometimes I have seen some of the most honest posts about relationships, from sociopaths, who have the ability to see it as it is. 

Sociopaths accept people for who they are. I like that trait. They also fight for them, even if they fight with them sometimes. I like that trait too. 

I don't think sociopaths should be with people who are

- Vulnerable

- Needing someone else to complete them

- A people pleaser

Its a recipe for disaster.

 Are you trying to imply that I'm a sociopath?

Honestly, I doubt I am one. I agree though, people need to be themselves and see how well they match up with eachother, for better and worse. Nobody should have to stop being themselves.

It's funny how people tell people to be more vulnerable, to be a people pleaser, and to be more sensitive when its convenient for them. All the while when they percieve someone as too needy, their advice will be the opposite. Then they say people are selfish. The irony eludes them somehow.

by anastacia

The other person knows the relationship is doomed, that's why they are pushing away. They probably see it as better to end it now than to get even more attached and suffer worse pain.

Is it possible that you weren't quite as distant initially? That maybe you were open at the start to allow this person into your life? Now that you feel they are captured you may possibly be letting yourself transition back to your true nature. These characteristics, though may be what drew them to you in the first place, could be difficult to deal with if they are presented more consistently. 

I guess its possible. I did notice I was alot more emotional than I normally am. Though I was also infatuated, the two go hand in hand, right? Those are the emotions I felt, I felt attached and like I loved her. Everyone has a honeymoon phase in relationship, its all about where things stand after that.

So you don't feel like you love her now? Does it feel like a comfortable arrangement instead? 

by anastacia

So you don't feel like you love her now? Does it feel like a comfortable arrangement instead? 

I do feel like I do love her. I feel frustrated though.

She's probably frustrated also. You know who you are, you know yourself past that honeymoon stage. She only knew you from that initial, happy, starting time and the person she knows now may be very different in a way that you don't see. Of course that goes both ways and she is different as well. 

I NEED A MAN WHO WILL STAND BY MY SIDE!!!