It's called charisma. You must have some dense white matter and some hefty frontal lobes, with a good balance of serotonin, and plenty of dopamine.
Look at manson. He's liquid serotonin. Agonized those receptors like pizza dough. Lava Lamp...
You really sound like a 2nd or 3rd generation immigrant though. Some remaining pieces of family values.
No dopamine left? Something in California doesn't like testosterone. Plenty of Lava Lamp.