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The female sociopath 'love' interest


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My experience has been one of cold turkey relationship ending with my sociopathic girlfriend. I use the word girlfriend in a way that means something different to me than to her. About 8 months ago, I met her at a party and was smitten with her looks and demeanor. She returned my interest in a sort of a way that I had trouble understanding. I was soon invited to her place for drinks and then the predator/prey scenereo began. Ever so slowly she flattered and worked me into a bonding that was truly worshipful on my part. As time went on, she grew more and more disinterested in my company and more interested in how much money I could fork over every time we met. One time we were with her sister and I offered to give her money to buy an expesive item. She said to her sister, "wow...give a little-get alot"! ( I now see that this very same phrase has been stated by M.E.@sociopathworld . This must be a typical idea in the sociopathic mind.) Wonder who first said this? The agressive sexual demands, manipulation, constant down - calling, sudden urges and etc., well known in sociopaths became full blown. She completely dropped the respectful behavior and let her true colors show. If I had have been able to resist her power, I would have saved many thousands of dollars in cash that she expected with a passion of fire. Others warned me that she was to be avoided, but I just could not see clearly because I literally worshipped her. Sex was one way only. She got hers and I got nothing. Only just twice, seemingly out of a kind of pity, when she was very high, did she 'fix' me up. Just twice in all that time. Yet I could not imagine not spending time with this beauty. Those two times felt like heaven and SO magical. This sounds so crazy, but it is the truth and I admit to it. So...with a huge feeling of strange guilt and aprehension, I managed to tell her that I could not continue to see her. She just walked away emotionless. Later I ran into her on the street and asked if she missed me. When she said yes, I asked her why, and she said curtly "why do you think?" Of course... she missed the big payouts and not me. And yet...I still can't get her out of my head. Still want her so much.

 

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The female sociopath 'love' interest

You need to tighten your game up.

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The female sociopath 'love' interest

If she was the best sex you've ever had, then it will take more effort on your behalf for the wounds to get better.

The answer to your question is yes no. She will be in your head for the rest of your life, but it won't always be as painful. It's more of a hard lesson learned, part of the aquired wisdom that we come accross in life experiences. You may not see it like this, but you do treasure what you've learned regardless of how painful it is.

Another thing. Don't assume someone like that is more powerful than you are, even though she has you by the nuts, you must change, that is what you can do, and it's done with the very emotions you are experiencing. Death of your ego, sounds cruel, but that is whats happening, this is an oppertunity for you to create your new ego, one that is wiser. When you see her, it will be like seeing a creature from a nightmare. Just enjoy the fasination of it while a better version of yourself is on the way. How you do it is up to you, though you have no choice but to carry on anyway. You'll figure it out.

 EDIT: I was thinking of what might be happening inside your head too much, and I forgot to mention. Don't ever give money to women without a trusted history.

 

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The female sociopath 'love' interest

what a lovely doormat you make...

and a word of advice bro... everyone uses people whethere you were using her for the high or she using you for the free ride, all social interactions stem from some want... 

furthermore this interaction doesnt make her a sociopath, it just makes you an idiot that thinks he can buy affection.

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sing it!

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Furthermore, there are people who give gifts and money and themselves and their hearts and do so with a free heart and mind.

 

You should not give if you demand something in return.

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There is no such thing as a selfless act... 

even philanthropy is done with a desire to feel gratious and to justify yourself as kind in your own mind (if not to appear so outwardly).

It's fine to expect something in return for your gifts... but only if you are a shrewd businessman in your transactions... the only fault is in supplying where there is no demand... and that's just a matter of poor business skills...

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I disagree completely. 

 

What is stupid, is giving and giving choosing someone who is not thankful. There are many kinds of giving. Heart, body and soul. When you love someone, do not want to share with them?

Think of parents at Christmas. Don't parents give things to children to make them happy? They give lots of things besides just financial gifts. But it does include financial things as well.

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parent's give to their children because it is expected by society, or because they live vicariously through their children. Some sense of joy is given to them from seeing their children happy. This in some way satisifies them or they wouldn't do it, it usually makes them feel loved by their kids or makes them feel like good parents...

again, there's no such thing as action without intent... and intent is always derived from some selfish drive.

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What are you basing that on?

 

What about people that die for their children? Athiests. What do they derive from that? 

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