Is it possible to be good looking and not Narcisstic? I would think so. I know people who are good looking and do have empathy.
I'm described as attractive by a lot of people, yet it makes me feel as though I'm stigmatized most of the time.
Empathy is irrelevant in this specific circumstance.
What you do with your looks matters.
Personally I don't give a flying fuck, unless I intend to use my looks to my own or to the advantage of those I love/care about.
Superficiality is petty. One's ability to overwhelm others with it, while maintaining a distance from that perception is not.
I think I understand you. I knew a very, very, good looking man. He did not like the fact that people were only attracted to his looks. He also was smart, fun, sexy, silly, witty and interesting.
I was talking about NPD which indicates a lack of empathy and extremely controlling judgemental behavior.
The specific type you're indicating is at their best self absorbed and at their worst self abhorrent (as per their personal judgement).
I'm merely a happy-go-lucky fool who laughs at all other fools, while maintaining a healthy dose of humor centered on myself.
What I'm driving at is always unsaid, but inferred none the less.