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The boy scout thought he was being helpful for making the blind old lady to cross the road.

The old lady didn't want to cross the road at all to begin with, as she had business on the side of the road she was already on - she tried to explain it to the boy scout but he was so full of his own helpfulness that he wouldn't listen.  So the blind old biddy exercised a noble act, letting the boy scout to have his moment of good deed heroism - then she crossed back the road all by her own as usual, when the boy scout wasn't looking.

Just a parable of different approaches to philanthropy. 

I like men who look the opposite from me, tall, lean and blond. I like introverts. I am an extravert.

Bad news for you: we tall, lean introverts of any hair colour tend to seek the company of other tall lean introverts of the appropriate gender. You may have better luck fishing in the gene pool by adjusting your requirements to a more realistic criteria. 

Thanks. 

I am having a bad day, and I am in a foul mood.

Oh and I am tall and OK myself. I have always dated introverts. I think we can balance each other at times. They make me stay home more, I make them go out more.

And I am not doing anything to be a philanthropist. I am merely saying that it would be nice to be with a partner who can help me change for the better and vice versa.

The original question was do people end up with their opposites? And my answer was "yes" sometimes they do.

At least in the realm of relationship power, it's awkward to have two tops or two bottoms together, since with two tops they both want to have the power in the relationship while two bottoms will awkwardly sit there expecting the other person to act first.

People tend to be attracted to traits related to their upbringing while still exposing them to things that are outside of their own realm of experience. As such, it's not too crazy to think that people'd be attracted to those with experiences unlike their own, but they usually reflect something familiar from the life they knew before finding their "other".

As for myself, I do love being with a foil, for it's someone like that that gets me out of my shell and has me experience things outside of my comfort zone that often surprise me for how fun they can be, but there has to be some common ground or else we'd likely not have begun talking to each other in the first place.

Opposites do not attract.

People are so similar, yet they believe they are all unique individuals. They all drive the same car that drove off the assembly line. They all went to the same colleges, and the same high schools, and universities.

They are all the same.

Show me a Millionaire who is dating some refugee from the third world and I will believe all the bullshit you spew.

"Opposites do not attract."
Pure opposites are extremely unlikely, but certain degrees of difference between people do carry weight.

"People are so similar, yet they believe they are all unique individuals. They all drive the same car that drove off the assembly line. They all went to the same colleges, and the same high schools, and universities."



"They are all the same."
If people were purely products of nurture, and you were to ignore the degrees of variation within the similarities (where they live, type of schooling, how they were raised, what economic situation their life reflected, who they've met, what faith they were raised under, etc), you'd be right, everyone is the same. Yet somehow everyone doesn't behave identically even with arguably similar experiences, with arguably similar stories. Nature plays a role as well as the lives they lead, both for how they respond to things and how they perceive their experiences in the first place.

I'd argue it being closer to a small realm of variety over pure sameness. How much value and weight said small realm has I suppose ought to be the real question.

Well, I can say I think opposite traits are more favorable for me regarding coexistence. I need someone who doesn't clash with me so I don't get a headache. If I have a higher chance of exploding, my other half would have to be chill under stress. Etc.

Similarities with some added differences could be what to look for.