by AerynFrellMe
My conclusion is, however, based on an assumption: the assumption that you don't have magic telepathic powers. lol
Of course I don't have magic telepathic powers.
What I do have is observational skills.
They are sometimes mistaken for magic telepathic powers by those who are not so well furbished with them.
by AerynFrellMeActually, knowing that people don't want to fuck me is a bit of a relief. Funny you should phrase it that way. 80% of the time I had no clue that people wanted to fuck me. Like I said, I thought I was charming or smthg.
What's hard on the ego is knowing that my intelligence and other skills that I'd worked so hard to build never meant a rat's ass to anybody. I was perceived as a whore. I rebelled with everything I had against being perceived that way. Now I discover in my old age that women aren't allowed to be anything but whores.
Kinda makes me wanna go out and shoot things if ya know what I'm sayin.
How do you think you were perceived as a whore as opposed to people just viewing you as extremely sexually desirable ??
And how do you go from being hot to not so completely ?
by AerynFrellMeI was perceived as a whore. I rebelled with everything I had against being perceived that way. Now I discover in my old age that women aren't allowed to be anything but whores.
What??? Never in my life I was perceived as a whore, nor I ever witnessed that other women aren't allowed to be anything but a whore either. What kind of universe you live in?
Did you emit "fuck me me me" vibes or something?
"Kinda makes me wanna go out and shoot things if ya know what I'm sayin."
Screw me if I know what you're saying..
When job opportunities, social networking and success are based on sex, that's whoring, imo. Competence should matter more than sex appeal.
I didn't say I went from hot to completely not hot. I'd still consider myself handsome. But I'm almost 42. Handsome is not the same as hot. I'm much more competent than I was 20 years ago. But people show me much less courtesy and present me with far fewer opportunities than they did back then.
by AerynFrellMeWhen job opportunities, social networking and success are based on sex, that's whoring, imo. Competence should matter more than sex appeal.
Never experienced or witnessed ANY gender-based discrimination in employment terms either, back in my 'employed' life. I'd say it's completely nonexistent in academia and many other fields since a long time.
As for social networking and success - what the fuck?? Success is living a life one's pleased with on one's own terms, as far as I'm concerned.
You'd have to pay me a very high sum to be arsed with 'social networking', sounds like a worst nightmare.
by AerynFrellMeWhen job opportunities, social networking and success are based on sex, that's whoring, imo. Competence should matter more than sex appeal.
I didn't say I went from hot to completely not hot. I'd still consider myself handsome. But I'm almost 42. Handsome is not the same as hot. I'm much more competent than I was 20 years ago. But people show me much less courtesy and present me with far fewer opportunities than they did back then.
whoring is a harshe way to look at it, luck of the draw more like it. Did you leverage off it though ?
I have had the opposite experience, i was acknowledged for just my intellect and competency for years and in more recent times i'm somehow become perceived as far more handsome (same age as you) and now endure that burden ... poor me
by AerynFrellMeDidn't you spend most of your adulthood in a marriage? You weren't considered sexually available bc you weren't. You probably got the respect you deserved bc you had a husband who also deserved respect.
Yes, still married. Mind you, marriage is an altogether different institution in continental europe, very much unlike in the anglosphere. We both had/have our extramarital affairs since almost forever. Availability or respect (or the lack thereof) based on one's marital state does not play into perception.
It's more about the way you carry yourself.
And for being regarded as a whore: it's usually the exceedingly good-looking women who are perceived as "untouchable" - intimidating / unavailable, therefore the opposite of "whorish".