In the sheets I'm a masochistic brat. I challenge who I am with to bring out the worst in them until there is no challenge left in me. I have been in the Mentor role more than once, and I find it exciting to watch them grow into something worth fearing, someone who, when they try to move on to someone else, are cursed with needs other wussy wannabes can't match. There's limits I haven't touched on yet, but it's not like there isn't time.
It's both a pride thing and a thing of passion, of cathartic release. My limits being as strange as they are has made some of them look like they were spiked with an upper when they saw they didn't have to stop, especially when I question why they'd stop.
"I can't imagine physically hurting my significant other or enjoying it for that matter. To me, sex is the ultimate demonstration of total and complete trust. Trusting me at her most vulnerable state and not just accepting, but embracing the emotional tie that comes with it."
Why don't you see BDSM as a representation of trust? Kinks in general are about helping someone along with their wants/needs, no matter how strange (or laughable) they may be. How is it not exhibiting levels of trust to share those sorts of personal details about yourself to someone who could very easily not understand or accept it, and for that matter, how is it not trust from the submissive's point of view during all of this? There's a fair deal of risk involved being the one in control, and the sub basically hands the reigns over to someone who could fuck up somewhere while the sub is in no position to save him/herself. It's still cooperation, passion, all that junk (assuming it's any good anyway). If the two are compatible in the kink department instead of "playing along" to be nice, it can become pretty emotional looking.
It's no different from a normal relationship in the areas of trust, save for kinky types being more generally open and experimental. The trust is simply exhibited through different means in a few areas while the same in many others.
"Yep. Rocked her fucking world."
Details?
I understand your point, but I couldn't raise my hand to someone I cared about like that. I had a ex, that during a heated argumemt demanded that I physically abuse her. She stated that if I didn't beat her, I didn't love her. Looking back into it now I can't tell if she was just fucked up or liked BDSM. Probably both.
As for the woman I stalked: She gave me a shot not too long ago. For some reason I never had any sexual desires for her, I was almost disgusted that she offered. But, still delighted at the opportunity I focused 100% on her pleasure, it wasn't stimulating for me at all. It was enough to know for once I directly was the instrument of her happiness.
"She stated that if I didn't beat her, I didn't love her. Looking back into it now I can't tell if she was just fucked up or liked BDSM. Probably both."
Did that come out unprovoked or something during the argument? I mean, I like pain, so I totally get where that comment could be coming from, but that's not something you spring on an unsuspecting person.
If that was the first you were hearing of it that wasn't fair to you. People new to the whole thing have to be eased into the idea if it doesn't immediately come naturally.
His case reminds me a little of Snot from American Dad. In a nutshell, he (Snot) had an obsessive crush on one of the characters, but the minute she liked him back his interest died. He was more in love with the stalking and "the hunt" than the woman herself, actually desiring the rejection at points more than admiration itself. For every fantasy that he had of them being together, he was shown in the end to be more enamored with the fantasy than a real life version that couldn't live up to it.
Edit: Post 3333 was about a television show? How disappointing.
I was on to this some time ago and even made a thread about it.
http://sociopath-community.com/topic/2014-01-18/stalking-what-happens-once-you-ve-won#63152
And about being more infatuated with the fantasy version.
http://sociopath-community.com/topic/2014-05-04/a-break-in-my-chain#90326