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Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 12

Good afternoon everybody, 

I am new to this forum and my native language isn't english, but I hope it is good enough to understand what I mean. 

Last year I met a nice guy (doctor) who was very successful in seducing me. I fell for him. It was nice. I think the first 6 weeks we stayed in touch nearly 24/7, via Viber, skype, phone. I met him at icq. We decided to meet us in a hotel in Amsterdam, smoked pot went to VanGogh Museum. Everything seemed to be nice. Of course I know, it needs time to develop a relationship and to know each other. After Amsterdam he changed.

For some reason he said to me something like "Until now we had the honeymoon and now let's see how you will deal with my dark side". I asked him, but he didn't reply. He also mentioned he can read minds. Another strange statement was "I can make you spend all your money on me". 

Well, sometimes people say things. But he also said, he loved me and want to have a relationship with me. 

We met again in London and than he wrote me (!) he didn't want to meet me anymore. Ok. Agreed. But what I don't understand is. It seemed he was a bit disappointed about the fact, I didn't beg him to stay. Also I didn't ask why. I just agreed. After his discard, he contacte me again and again and wanted to know, if I am hurt. Of course I was first, because I liked him, but this "dark side" thing I didn't just understand. In a way I think, he wanted to install some tabs, so that he can come back and leave if it suits him. 

So my question to you is: When you seduce your "victim" and get bored or whatever and discard later. Do you love to see them suffer? Is this part of Sadism?

And did you miss sometimes your victims, after you discarded them, in way? Are you capable of bonding? Or are you fractured in your emotions?

I miss him sometimes. He had a perspective I never experienced before. I don't want to be with him in a relationship.In fact it never was one.  He is a liar (he is already in at least one relationship) and he is so experienced in manipulating. But I must admit that I liked the exchange of views. He is very intelligent. 

Do you think I should stay with him in contact or is it to dangerous for me? I mean he destroyed at least two women. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 433
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

Tits or GTFO.

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 772
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

he sounds like he needs a therapist.

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 326
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

His depth is only an illusion. Inside he is only a chaotic mess of reflections and desires. By dark side, he means his shadow complex, his inner wolf, that is animalistic and instinctive, also incredibly fake and gay.

on 5/14/2014
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Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

what do you mean he destroyed 2 women?

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 12
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

@Metaerg

yep, it sounds like need someone to talk to 

 

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 12
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

@kitty

thank you for your reply. Yes he behaved a bit gay. I asked him once, if he is bi sexual. He denied. It seems he has several lifes in a way. I can't put my finger on it. As I said, I never experienced one like him. 

on 5/14/2014
Posts: 12
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

@thesugargirl

of course I am not sure, if all was a lie. But he mentioned a woman who lost everything after their short relationship (her family, her home, her work, her money) she was crazy, he said. After the meeting with him I think, he mess up with everybody who loves him. It is just a thought. 

Than he sent me a picture (!) from his ex, he has a daughter with her. I didn't ask for the pic and told him that never to do again. It is a thing between him and her. She looked absolutely devasteted on the pic. He told me (after our "relationship") she is still under his spell and would everything do, what he wants from her. It sounds like an on/off relationship. I can't proof it, but the pic speaks for it self. Poor woman. 

He also admitted, that he had lied to me from the beginning. I asked him,  if he is in a relationship or married. He denied. I will never to be with someone who isn't single. He told me this year, that he is living together with his long term partner (no more love) and they have a child together. She is addicted to him, can't leave him. So a lot of crazymaking. I saw a pic from her, she looks afraid and like a ghost. I think, both are trauma-bonded and both are beautiful women by the way. 

So to stay or to be with him in a relationship as a woman isn't a good idea. 

Well, as I read this and write the things, I think, this guy isn't really good news, is he?

 

 

on 5/15/2014
Posts: 1259
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

He sounds like a great guy.

on 5/15/2014
Posts: 91
Seduced by a Human being with psychopathic traits

Not sure if it's your being foriegn that is confusing me here. I imagined your last comment to actually be a question instead of a statement, so, going by that fact (and the question mark), here are my $0.02.

No one really cares personally about your issues, for they are yours. You do whatever you think you should do, and do whatever it is you want to do. All of the signs, based only on what you said, so the merit is a little shady, scream "get gone you idiot!" but if a little part of you wants to stick it through, do it. Some of the best lessons in life are learned the hard way. Especially when you have someone willing to ignore the reality of something to continue on with the fantasy.

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