Since I was refereed to this site via a friend I mind as well begin to post my thoughts and curiosities. Has anyone else ever considered the thought of being a parent? Lately I have been pondering the idea but I just cant seem to see myself being a proper parent. I never have loved or cared about anyone but myself but would this also extend to my child? I mean, the littlun would be part of me so would I have that sudden feeling of undiminishing love others have claimed to have suddenly appear when the child is born? Or would I simple see it as what its there for. Nothing more then to extend my gene and bloodline and to keep my family name alive. Any thoughts about this concept? Has anyone else ever thought of being a father or mother? Please do tell as I have found little support on the matter with others I know who simply always say, "Of course! Its my child, oh my!".
if you are anything like i was at the age of 20 i would say no dont do it. I got my gf pregnant when was 20 and i thought everything would be great. A few months after she was born i was getting off of night shift and i was supposed to stay up with her while my gf left to work days. Her mom was going to come get my daughter in a few hrs. Being who i am i was tired and didnt give a fuck so i layed down. My daughter started crying. I got pissed off and put her in the bathtub and covered her with blankets tell i couldnt hear her anymore and went back to bed. It was then i realized i had to get the fuck out of there. So i packed my shit and took off. I think if i would have stayed i would have killed or molested her so i took off and never went back. She is 19 now. And in my mind i dont give a fuck about her. I wish i could love her. Like the way my mom did me. But i lack the give a fuck i would need. She is just a stranger to me.
by whoameyeif you are anything like i was at the age of 20 i would say no dont do it. I got my gf pregnant when was 20 and i thought everything would be great. A few months after she was born i was getting off of night shift and i was supposed to stay up with her while my gf left to work days. Her mom was going to come get my daughter in a few hrs. Being who i am i was tired and didnt give a fuck so i layed down. My daughter started crying. I got pissed off and put her in the bathtub and covered her with blankets tell i couldnt hear her anymore and went back to bed. It was then i realized i had to get the fuck out of there. So i packed my shit and took off. I think if i would have stayed i would have killed or molested her so i took off and never went back. She is 19 now. And in my mind i dont give a fuck about her. I wish i could love her. Like the way my mom did me. But i lack the give a fuck i would need. She is just a stranger to me.
So you're a barely-literate middle aged man who brags about how you smothered your now-estranged infant daughter prior to leaving her alone in an apartment, so you wouldn't sexually molest or kill her. What a prize catch you are... Way too good for a young lingerie-model-cum-medical-student. Lol.
You know, I've seen many bone-headed confessions on this forum, but I must say that this one tops them all.
I can sum up my conclusions in two answers that always rise when I think on this.
Either I love the child and it somehow regulates me and life changes into something oh so grand
Or I recognize my duty and teach it to be better than myself and others. I like to think I mainly raised myself and I turned out pretty well over all. Any child of mine would only have that much more of an edge.
I am a parent and I can tell you from experience that parenting sucks. It requires two things I hate - responsibility and routine. My daughter complains that we don't have a set routine because I hate living by one. I like doing things when I feel like doing them, that includes her home-schooling as well.
I care about my daughter, but in a narcissistic way. I care about her because she's apart of me. She's an extension of myself. When I look at her I see me.
The benefit of having kids is that you're basically their God (at least while their younger) and that feels pretty damn fine.