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People like a priest, are weak minded and refuse to see things for what they realy are, I know i could never be so narow minded to overlook the obivous and beleave in something so much, without some sort of proof, just because it is writen down dosent meen it is true, Hell when i was a child santaclause was very real to me, religon and santa clause are the same

I knew the priest was a bad example :)

I think the challenge is to find a balance between inner values and the external values. Internally, I put my own values over other values if it fits better, in that specific situation. Otherwise, in a situation where other people are involved, I tend to use the external generalized values.

Sounds smart to me.

Just to be clear, the point of this topic isn't religions. After the conversation in the chat I realize more than before that I probably shouldnt have picked the priest as an example.

Would you say that your values have been the same throughout your life, or do they change or evolve in some way?

And how would you react if you encountered someone with very different values, but you couldn't isolate them from yourself? For example if it were a family member or work colleague.

Sorry I made a double post

My values have always been more or less subject to change, although as of late I've been changing my opinion more frequently. Now that I think about it, the more constant values of my life are mostly based on emotions and empathy and they're often pretty fundamental. Things like trying not to cause pain. Not that I've always followed my better judgement; I've done my share of things I'm not proud of.

I wasn't really talking about physical isolation, what I meant was closer to mental isolation. Not making an effort to understand the other person on any level. I personally don't have much contact with my family, save for my sister. As for my work colleagues, at best I would not talk about anything related to the contradicting views. At worst, I would flip.

I used to do that, anyway. I'm actually trying to fix it, because I see it as a problem. I have a habit of getting frustrated especially when someone's views contradict some of my more cherished values. As an example, I got really frustrated for a long time when someone at my university talked about poor people in a condescending manner. I think I mentioned about it here: http://sociopath-community.com/topic/2013-12-07-09-20/karmic-justice-your-experiences-or-views/4#55188. As a result, I said a lot of things which I probably shouldn't have said.

Since you're interested, what about you? Do your values evolve, and how do you deal with contradicting views and values?

Oh, and thanks for the reply!

That is very emotionally mature of you. Good work.