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I have no plans for the next six years. There has been talk of buying a condo, but nothing firm. My fiance' parents have offered to help us with the down payment, with the stipulation that they be on the mortgage. My fiance seems to have no problem with it, but I find those terms unacceptable. There is no fucking way I'm being indebted to his overbearing parents. They fucked him up enough, and I like to keep them out of our lives as much as I can. 

As a sociopath you should be able to help him 'see the light' about his parents, no?

If all goes as plan I will be in my last year of med school

I've been working on it, believe me. His mother is dug in there pretty good. He's told me in passing about some of the ways she manipulated him as a child. Some of it surprised me, some garnered my admiration, some made me want to get in a fight with her. I had to pass on a couple dinner offers from his family because I didn't think I'd be able to keep my cool around the bitch. He has mostly come around. Pointing out that his mother may have poisoned him helped. He still jumps like a little puppy when they tell him to. He's mine now bitch. 

I've gotten his immediate family to almost adore me though. His former gay-bashing mother has been bragging to her bible study group about her son's "amazing boyfriend". It's funny how easy some beliefs are to influence. 

I'm going to assume that question was to the OP who had that specific time frame in mind when asking her question.

Yup. That's why I replied generally.

I'm still getting money for her at the moment.

I'm not just going to kick her out when I stop getting money for her either because she may be useful to me in the future at some point.

I'll encouraging her to leave home when she's older and more capable of looking after herself.

Fair enough. But if you want to go travelling, why not just take her along with you? It's not like she's a little kid, and even if she was plenty of people still do that.

by Gypsy

Fair enough. But if you want to go travelling, why not just take her along with you? It's not like she's a little kid, and even if she was plenty of people still do that.

She has a boyfriend who she wants to live with and marry eventually. He seems like a decent guy, so I have no issue with her moving in with him when they're both old enough to get their own place together and pay their own bills.

The last thing I want is my daughter relying on me when I finally get time to myself to do what I want.

What will you do for money once she's out of the picture?

I could have put it like this: "where do you think you'll be a year after your 5-year plan?" assuming you have a 5-year plan... And I figured you probably don't. So I simply put "6 years" :) 

I think this is probably the best thing you've said about parenting TK. 

That's a tough nut to crack. Can't you find him a supplement family? ^-^