I agree with everything you said, especially about the belief that they are below you. In order to feel confident in predator chance of success, inferiority must be sensed or the hunt is off, consciously or unconsciously (who doesn't want some type of relationship? healthy or not) This is where I say you are wrong about the relationship, because the resonating factor is inferiority, both for "victim" and "perpetrator", for the "perp" must believe thoughts of inferiority about themselves or they would find mature relationships based on wholeness and health. It is only "beneficial" in that they are locked in a positive-feedback loop heading towards disintegration. Psychic and physical exhaustion will eventually rear its head and consume both towards separating, either peacefully or violently. Peacefully would be through learning about the process of dysfunction that they are both engaged in. Violent if they are ignorant or if one is ignorant to the destructive game that is being played.
Personally, Why I love both House and Sherlock, is because they don't take any shit and are geniuses.
I am not misanthropic the way they are. They hate everyone and probably can't stand to be around most people because intellectually, most are not very stimulating to them.
I believe Daddy is right. The perp must think that the victim is below them or confidence of acquisition won't exist and the hunt will be called off, consciously or unconsciously. You can only manipulate an object. Objects are inferior to the point of being used/manipulated. "make them feel like you're on their level" is a misuse of empathy and indicates what Daddy says "believe…that they are below you". You "stoop" down to their level and make them feel equal. I think you just echoed Daddy, but with different words and not fully understanding the dynamic. I have to say in support though, that perps are victims of inferiority themselves so they aren't actually lowering themselves. They are at the same level of inferiority, they just believe that they have some aspect that makes them superior in a sense that then gets overinflated in importance so as to protect their fragile lie of being okay, being enough in this scary world, where they know what is is like to feel less than most. It is all a perverse lie learned somewhere, usually childhood. We are capable of being planted in good soil and growing even if stunted, sheltered, suffocated like a neglected plant. Give what is needed and both can evolve towards integration. I highly recommend the Enneagram: Personality Types. I just read my type. Profound tingles of awareness. I have no become my own rescuer, wise gardener. Thanks for listening.
Ok...this seems to be a touchy subject to you. Tell us more about your issues. -Edvard
I'm curious, are you aware that you've started to emulate/mirror me? Is it a conscious ploy of manipulation or a subconscious acceptance of your place beneath me?
I already know the correct answer, but I'd like to hear how you perceive it, or at least know how you'd like others to perceive it.