I have a son too. He's five and I haven't done jack shit for him. I BARELY see him. I told my psychologist that I don't think there's a point. I can't hold down a job, and I can't become emotionally attached and I don't understand how adults love their children. I just don't see the point. She said that kids at a young age don't understand why a parent might not be around, they think it's because of them. I have 3 short memories of my dad and I don't care at all. One day I saw my son staring out the window of the car and my mom asked me why he does that, and that I used to do that. I couldn't bring myself to tell her. Just do what you think will benefit yourself. No one wants to pay child support.
by FauxAffablyEvilI have a son too. He's five and I haven't done jack shit for him. I BARELY see him. I told my psychologist that I don't think there's a point. I can't hold down a job, and I can't become emotionally attached and I don't understand how adults love their children. I just don't see the point. She said that kids at a young age don't understand why a parent might not be around, they think it's because of them. I have 3 short memories of my dad and I don't care at all. One day I saw my son staring out the window of the car and my mom asked me why he does that, and that I used to do that. I couldn't bring myself to tell her. Just do what you think will benefit yourself. No one wants to pay child support.
You do care.
The reason you don't spend time with your son is because you're afraid you're going to turn out like your father. You don't want to hurt your son the way you were hurt. You admitted that when you pointed out your own problems.
by MirageWhat's it like? How are you suposed to act?
I decided I should acccept my responsabilities for once and I'll try and be a father to my daughter, but how?
Anyone care to help me with that? What should I do?
Fuck
This is about your own insecurities. You want to be a good father, but you're worried you're going to fuck it all up.
You don't need us to give you advice. You already know what to do. You just need a little more confidence in yourself.
by Thrill Kill
by FauxAffablyEvilI have a son too. He's five and I haven't done jack shit for him. I BARELY see him. I told my psychologist that I don't think there's a point. I can't hold down a job, and I can't become emotionally attached and I don't understand how adults love their children. I just don't see the point. She said that kids at a young age don't understand why a parent might not be around, they think it's because of them. I have 3 short memories of my dad and I don't care at all. One day I saw my son staring out the window of the car and my mom asked me why he does that, and that I used to do that. I couldn't bring myself to tell her. Just do what you think will benefit yourself. No one wants to pay child support.
You do care.
The reason you don't spend time with your son is because you're afraid you're going to turn out like your father. You don't want to hurt your son the way you were hurt. You admitted that when you pointed out your own problems.
Oh thrill I didn't point out a "problem". What I did was state that my father wasn't around and I don't care, and that my son is probably just like me so I doubt he will care either if I'm absent. You see what I mean? I'm simply disproving what my psychologist said because some people are a special case.
by FauxAffablyEvilOh thrill I didn't point out a "problem". What I did was state that my father wasn't around and I don't care, and that my son is probably just like me so I doubt he will care either if I'm absent. You see what I mean? I'm simply disproving what my psychologist said because some people are a special case.
Why did you bother going to therapy if you're simply going to continue using denial as your defense mechanism?
There's no shame in admitting that you don't want to turn out like your father. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you'll make progress in your life.