Are you a Codependent? 
Focusing on negative things is how you can eventually recognize how to fix it. If you refuse to acknowledge that problems can exist, you're living a life of willful ignorance.
Go figure, you're asking her to change instead of looking at yourself to question why she might feel this way about you, since negative things are "bad".
Her message is Focused on complaining about that.
She is going to feel what she feels but how does "Complaining about it" do anything positive to correct the problem Turncoat.
If it helps her to express her internal conflicting issues that part is still her problem to fix. So if she doesnt take any steps to change her part of the equation, of course the problem stays stuck and doesnt change.
I can keep working on solving the bigger equation this is part of. I can work on my part and myself, but can't help TK with her part only she can figure out and change. Thats her job not mine.
Ps what May help is finishing the thread on karma so we agree what causes things and quit blaming in ways that doesnt solve problems
Fine, if you're going to repeat yourself like I'm literarily deaf, I'll target each part individually:
"Her message is Focused on complaining about that."
Yes. It is.
"She is going to feel what she feels but how does "Complaining about it" do anything positive to correct the problem Turncoat."
It airs her grievances that come from her having to tolerate her perceived inconvenience of your existence.
"If it helps her to express her internal conflicting issues that part is still her problem to fix."
She is technically taking steps to fix it if she's venting. Bottling it up would be worse wouldn't it?
"So if she doesnt take any steps to change her part of the equation, of course the problem stays stuck and doesnt change."
What "part of the equation" are you referring to specifically?
"I can keep working on solving the bigger equation this is part of."
Care to briefly describe said equation?
"I can work on my part and myself, but can't help TK with her part only she can figure out and change. Thats her job not mine."
As easily as people here could probably make a list of things she ought to change, what are you figuring she ought to change, her attitude?
Oh... I understand! I am Codependent too. Thrill Kill is my favourite SW poster. Thrill Kill is the biggest game player here. Take a look around the forum and you will find Thrill Kill everywhere! Thrill Kill always gets all the lesser SW posters all worked up and hot and bothered between the thighs. Watching Thrill Kill do what Thrill Kill does to people is... well... it is just special! 