Neither.
What I have to collect is secret. If you're supposed to know, you already do.
When I walk through the neighborhood I have my headphones on. The music is confident so I walk to match it. It stops strangers from talking to me. To the people who live there I show no reaction to my surroundings. If I need to show disgust I will.
When I see the man I write a note saying "leave before bad things happen." If he wakes up before I'm gone I don't want to have to pass him on the way out. He knows that bad things happen and he prefers oblivion so he will most likely leave.
I take the elevator and hold my breath. Easier to avoid vomit smells than to avoid people wondering why a stranger would walk 8 flights. I knock on the door and smile. If I'm invited in I go in. What I want is already mine, I just have to remind them. I don't have to manipulate, but I know there's an obligation to put on a show of it.
I sit, I smile, I talk, the possibility of failure doesn't exist. If they didn't want me to have it, they wouldn't have let me know where to find it.
We shake hands, kiss cheeks, and say good night. I am happy to get what I came for and they are satisfied to have given it.