Hi Edvard: My point is how "hating and fearing" them gives them fuel to play with. you know this. why give them that? can't you just dislike such actions without "hating or fearing" the people? When you truly understand the dynamics, you don't hate or fear them. there is not this added emotion coming from you.
Getting rid of that added layer of "fear and negative reaction," will reduce the very energy that attracts them to look for victims to mess with. if you don't carry fear projected from the past, you will also have a more clear sense of intuition and judgment of the people around you. Clarity from more wisdom and less fear.
Is that what you want, or do you always want to be vulnerable?