You didn't answer the question... Do you think everyone thinks like you, Cube?
Dear Circe: i didnt see anything in your OP that touched on "love as understanding and accepting someone" or "to love is to care for someone's soul"
Could this be what is missing from the picture?
Once you have the spiritual connection, dont all the other things you listed follow naturally as an expression of love, not a condition on it.
Wishing you much love!