by MissyMaybe it's a challenge to love someone who got hurt, and an ego thing, gluttony or punishment that I take it upon myself to do so, and with that their opinion of me will inevitable change.
I didn't answer this because I wanted it to just disappear, I couldn't handle the miscarriage talk. But now I'm more balanced and fine. That toss around yesterday really helped me on my feet again. Ready to ask more question an elaborate on the answer.
Yes, I also notice that as I get to know ppl and my perception of them changes, then they tend to reciprocate.The changes happen in tandem, like balancing both sides of an equation.
As for loving people, just make sure it is unconditional. that you are NOT just doing it "on the condition" that you get XYZ result. Because that puts pressure and can lead to disappointment from false expectations.When you love for lovesake, any changes happen naturally.Like not forcing an egg to hatch, or forcing a rose to bloom. Just water and sunlight and the flower naturally blooms, as a result not as a condition trying to make something happen.