"He lies for no reason, takes unhealthy risks, is likely a sex addict, acts grandiose, does not respond correctly to questions that require an emotional response. Anyway, am very attracted to him"
Holy fuck! LOL - This is a funny forum.
All I'm gonna say is don't blame the socio/psychopath. Some people make it so damn easy.
You say you wanna understand him better... ok - when he's flirting with you and building up that ego of yours, the only feeling he has for you is contempt. Will he hurt you physically? Hard to say for sure but probably not too much cuz he has a family and he won't want you causing him more trouble than your worth. Enjoy!
Simple Alice. Talk openly about this with your boyfriend. All your other friends you will have relations with the rest of your life. And I'm sure they will talk you out of this. Because they love you. That's who you should listen to!
The way this guy can get to you is to trick you into thinking you can do this on the side and it won't matter.
He does not care what other relations would be destroyed.
But you do. YOU are going to have to fix whatever relations get devastated by this while he runs off and leaves the blame on YOU. One single act of poor judgment can total relations or take years to fix and they are never the same.
Don't test things this way. You can find out what would happen BY ASKING IN ADVANCE. without making mistakes to find out.
So don't let yourself get used that way at the cost of your other relationships that matter.
If that's not enough to stop you, then offer to meet his wife and kids.
You'd have to take ALL people into consideration and it would be easy to say no.
The only thing that allows you to think this is even possible is you are NOT COUNTING the other people in the equation with you.
Put it in perspective.
And DON'T listen to people who would NOT think about you, your boyfriend, the man's wife and kids equally.
If someone is THAT selfish they would forget and not count all these people, why listen to them?
If they don't care about you, what makes you think they would advise you correctly?
Listen to people who CARE about YOU and YOUR RELATIONS with others to thrive and be healthy and happy.
This is just a TEST, so the answer is to ASK AROUND and don't leave out information.
You won't make mistakes if you include everyone in the decision. You make mistakes by leaving people out.
Maybe she finds it thrilling to mess w/ a sociopath. The fact that she has no idea what might happen makes it that much more exciting.
I get it.
Don't be hatin' on the girl! ;) Unless you are one you have fucked one thus you are on this forum, let's put things in perspective, shall we? ;) haha!
I say do whatever you feel like, if u want to fuck the man then do it. Just make sure you have nothing major to lose, b/c lose you will. Try to prevent the wife and kids from getting hurt, this madness is not their fault, you know? Family first, ridiculousness later.
Hope it's worth it!! :)
I get the feeling from your explanation it is more than sex that is attracting you to him. If it were just sex as you say then you would jump right in but since you are posing the question to all of us on here, you are very excited and enthused by him.
First, I would never recommend sex with a married man and especially with children, you are just opening up the door to trouble for yourself and possibly him. If he is a sociopath, he will just blow right through you, the sex will mean nothing to him and depending on how good or useful at the time you are, he will use you and drop you cold. Then you will return to your boyfriend feeling like used crap. How will you feel with your boyfriend after that?
If you are not a sociopath too, you will not win with him it doesn't matter how great you think you are in bed, its been my experience that they are only motivated by intense mental and emotional banter with the goal of winning! Men can obtain sex anywhere, what will keep him in the game is your mind and if you are able to stay one step ahead or even. Get your sex kicks somewhere else, where you can be in control and do the dumping yourself! If he uses you, you will not like it, it will be tenfold any hurt you have ever experienced. Good luck.
the only reason I want to have sex with him is because we compatible in a way I haven't been with anyone ever. I know that is part of the game. But he knows nothing a bout what I like in the sack and he has described what like to a tee. So I just want to fuck him once and store him in my spank bankWill how harmful would that be? With a wife kids and job I don't think he had time to stalk and if I am extra boring afterwards perhaps he will just go find another person to fuck. I am legitimately looking for one night. No more no less. And I would like to thank everyone gift all of the very helpful advice.