No, I read novels on psych, fuck forums, they're just a place to socialize.
It's a Cherokee saying and I've loved it since the first time I read it because it seemed to apply very well to me. I try to let the "good" wolf be the driver, but the "bad" one usually is too strong to let him.. Not that I mind that much though, I wouldn't trade my evil wolf for anything in the world.
Mm, now you actually made me wonder if I maybe have a sniff of MPD to go with my sociopathy..
Hi IAIO: first of all, I believe the laws of karma were using you, too. If these people did not belong together, that's why she would sleep with someone else anyway, if not you, it would be for other reasons. If they were meant to be together, not only could you not break them up, but she would not sleep with you.
The more honest way to break people up who don't belong together is to pressure and harass them to get married. If one or the other isn't serious, then those issues will come out of the closet. And you are the good guy not bad guy.
As for this "guilt tactic" it sounds close to what I am doing in my neighborhood. but I call it taking responsibility. Because the Democrats destroyed a national historic district, abusing taxmoney to pay off developers to do their dirty work, I got drawn in and started investing my own money into fixing it "as a fellow Democrat." So the point is to pressure other people to get involved in fixing it.
I didn't cause the problems. I wasn't part of the white/black karma, but just as a citizen who believes certain rights are inalienable, then when these are violated they should be restored. If Govt not only violated the rights, but failed to correct them, then it becomes "responsibility" of the people to step in to fix the injustice.
How is this working? On an individual level, it gives me leverage with people who can't use the same arguments against me they use on others. They cannot say I am just bitching and not doing anything. Instead, I have leverage to push them to do more. so yes, this does carry more weight than "not taking responsibility."
Collectively, it doesn't work as long as people can say "well those other people aren't doing anything". So that's where it falls apart. It works best one on one.
"Do any of you use guilt as a tool and still not feel it?"
My feelings of guilt's closer to perfectionism. I don't feel bad so much as wrong or imperfect, and even there, it can be pretty easy to rationalize past.
I tend to guilt trip sarcastically. It can be fun to watch that brief moment where they believe it, and then realize after that it was a joke. So expressive.
I used to guilt trip like it was my day job before I learned some restraint.