I find myself having a hard time keeping my impulses in check. I feel like I have an answer to any problem people can come up with, except for my own. Anyone else having this problem? If not, how do you control yourself?
First decide which conflicts in life most affect you. Like any mommy or family issues affecting your communication with others. Or daddy issues/control issues from your parents or their past affect your relationship with authority figures or romantic partners.
As you commit to forgive, let go or work past these issues (ie not the same as suppressing or denying them, because that's what jams up your conscience with past garbage you project onto future relations, and prevents your mind from being complelely clear and disciplined) then you will improve your focus, response and control in perceptions and relations. You may also attract more positive productive people in your life to make progress together in mutually beneficial ways. So forgiveness/positive energy attracts more of the same; while negative thoughts and emotions waste energy and take up mental space needed for creative work.
I started with my mom and worked out the rest from there. Each person's path is different but most ppl I meet project from their pasts fairly predictably like a science. Daddy issues = control, authority issues, fear of change or control by competing influences or interests; Mommy issues = honest communication skills.
you can also read other people to see who is in denial or who is honestly working out their issues and is aware the process is mutual, not about controlling others.
one of my friends coaches people to confront their "fear, stress, anxiety" get rid of that and you can focus more creatively and effectively. I call it getting rid of fear and unforgiveness. and replacing scarcity mentality with abundance mentality. same thing, it's all this law of attraction or karma thing, you get what you give.
I've had some impulse control issues in the past. I've learnt from experience that I can't trust myself in certain situations. The only way I know how to maintain control is to avoid those situations, because if I don't, the next time I lose control I may end up in prison.
I've been told to take a step back and really think about what I'm doing before I do it, but it's not always that easy. When I lose control, I'm not even thinking. I just act. There's no forethought to my actions at all. At least not on a conscious level anyway.
Constant self awareness and discipline is the only way I've learned to cope with the problems you've described. I think we all face them. I have given myself a code to control and subdue both my demeanor and my behavior. At first it was just a way to blend in with the empaths so I could better take advantage of them, but now it has evolved into a means of keeping my life healthy and manageable.