No, I understand what kind of dominance he asserts. It was more of a curiosity to see if my assumption was correct.
I don't think you're pathetic. I think you're in over your head and need to hear these things bluntly without sugar coating. I think you underestimate just how much havoc a sociopath can cause. And I also think you have some personal issues you need to work out. Self loathing is only going to make you an easier target for him.
Sometimes it's easier to look at your own situation from another point of view. If you start to have second thoughts or falter in backing off from him, copy and paste your own initial posts to Word or something similar. Read them as though it's your best friend confiding in you. Also, I recommend taking up a new hobby. Anything. Start a new book series, take a creative arts night class or volunteer. Just make yourself unavailable to him and to your thoughts of him.
by DaddyI am not sure about most males, but women i'm not sleeping with hold little to no appeal to me. I have a strong urge to dominate the things I want and when that's applied to women, domination usually means ownership through sex. when i find a woman intellectually stimulating, I usually get her to sleep with me or cut her off (which usually makes her want to sleep with me to obtain my affection again.) So i imagine if you put this guy (who seems a lot like me) in friend zone he's either gonna want you more or cut you off. depending how you play it out.
I think we could still be friends. I'll still be nice and flirt with him, and I can live vicariously through him telling me that other girls are dumb. In a way that's just as good.
by anastaciaNo, I understand what kind of dominance he asserts. It was more of a curiosity to see if my assumption was correct.
I don't think you're pathetic. I think you're in over your head and need to hear these things bluntly without sugar coating. I think you underestimate just how much havoc a sociopath can cause. And I also think you have some personal issues you need to work out. Self loathing is only going to make you an easier target for him.
Sometimes it's easier to look at your own situation from another point of view. If you start to have second thoughts or falter in backing off from him, copy and paste your own initial posts to Word or something similar. Read them as though it's your best friend confiding in you. Also, I recommend taking up a new hobby. Anything. Start a new book series, take a creative arts night class or volunteer. Just make yourself unavailable to him and to your thoughts of him.
I should find a hobby, but I don't stay interested in things long enough.
I know he can cause havoc, but the weird thing is when he isn't trying to destroy me he makes me a stronger person. The way I deal with other people after having spent time with him is so different. I know that after reading all of this emotional freaking out it seems hard to believe, but overall he's been a good influence on me. He's told me he's proud of me when he sees me dealing with people and that sounds patronizing but I know what he meant.
I do need to work on the self-loathing though. I don't know why I hate myself and choose negative adjectives when positive ones that mean the same thing exist. It sucks.