I don't know the protocol of this forum or if you all are sick of these types of questions. However, my story is an interesting one. The backstory is worthy of a Lifetime movie but in summary I was swept away by a guy from out of state that I met at a model casting, and I agreed to a three day getaway in a city I wanted to visit with him all on his dime. He was hot, charming, and successful (modeling was not his main job). I won't go into the long winded details of how I know he is a sociopath, but just assume he truly is one.
Up until the trip we spoke daily and he seemed really into me in the typical sociopathic way of love bombing. Spoke of the future and of kids almost immediately which maybe some girls would love but I was definitely a bit freaked, albeit flattered. During the trip I knew something was off with him but I dismissed it since he was perfect in every other way.
Long story short, I discovered (I'm a hell of a lot smarter than I look) that he had set up the entire casting and posed as a nonexistent photographer all with the goal of meeting me. Not sure why, as he is very attractive and outgoing and would really have no problem meeting whatever girl he pleased via the regular non-stalking way. I do not know whether he specifically targeted me or was just browsing the local models and I happened to be his favorite that responded to the casting.
I'm still alive after the trip obviously so I still do not know what his goal was. He continued to talk to me afterwards but less frequently, saying he missed me and other niceties along those lines. He wasn't the same as he was before, however. I played along for a while knowing when he was lying and toyed with him a bit near the end by calling him out on lies to see his reaction, which consisted of him lying more and then trying to be sweet afterwards. I became bored and irrititated so I decided to call him out on the whole lie.
I emailed the fake address that I knew went to his cellphone telling him to check his fake photographer Facebook where I had sent a message letting him know I knew the truth. I was not threatening and not at all angry (I'm really not angry but am definitely disappointed that the dream wasn’t real). If anything, I am very intrigued by him and just wanted to hear his thoughts and reasonings. It’s so rare for me to be interested in a guy, and the fact he is probably sociopathic makes him even more fascinating to me than he was before the fact. Most people are so boring to me. He thought I was super weird, coming from a sociopath!
Next thing I know, the profile is deleted. I haven't heard anything from him since. I am a bit confused...I thought that sociopaths always wanted to win? Wouldn’t he at least want to know how I figured it out? Would he simply accept I outsmarted him at his game and completely ignore me after being discovered? Is he waiting for time to pass before he comes back into the picture? What would you do? What is he thinking?
He was trying to get me to go on all these trips with him to Europe but I had to turn them down because of work. Is this why he appeared to lose interest after our weekend getaway? Because I wasn’t easily manipulated into doing what he wanted? I mean, I totally would have if I could have gotten off of work and I assume he knew I was telling the truth about it.
Honestly, I am not looking for a relationship. I am done with them. I was willing to make an exception because I thought he was special but even knowing what I know about him I'd be willing to agree to a mutually exploitative situation where I join him on trips and have (mind-blowing) sex with him while I provide his arm candy or whatever the fuck he was hoping to achieve with me.
Since his image would benefit by me being “with him†I can only assume that was his goal, OR this is a game he plays weekly when he’s traveling the country (but then why push to get me to take a month sabbatical to join him on all these trips?).
I am done with emotional bullshit that just annoys me. I am not a sociopath, but I could definitely get along with one. I despise those whose functionality is based off of irrational emotion, as I am a very logical and rational person myself. Exes have often accused me of being cold and emotionless, but I don’t start out that way until they lose their appeal to me after a few major mishaps on their part. I am very empathetic and caring to those I find deserving but they are few. In the brief time we spent together this sociopathic man treated me better than all of those who supposedly “loved me†in past relationships. I’m willing to take that trade even though I know his feelings wouldn’t be real. It would still be a step up than the losers I’ve dealt with.
Did I blow it with him by calling him out? I know he loves challenges...wouldn't I now be the ultimate challenge since I know what he is? Would you ever be interested in a agreement like mine or would it take the fun out of it? What are your recommendations and explanations of the situation from his point of view?