My point exactly, why hold up such traits when in the end it makes you miserable. I've been holding this mask for a very long time now. I think it first started when I was very young, but it developed over the years.
Ofcourse I will keep things socially acceptable, but there's more room to explore within those boundries than I origionally expected.
Can I aks how your friend copes with the feeling of not being able to change?
by MESSIAHSo you've decided to stop pretending to be nice and openly become a bastard? I agree with Lucifer, that seems very counter productive. And messy.
No.no no. I didn't say it was counter productive. I didn't mean to imply a judgment one way or another. I was only citing what I have done. I enjoyed being a smug asshole to someones face that deserved it, but I realized the repercussions were too emotionally expensive.
I would say it more like you don't know what you don't know.
How does a blind man cope with not being able to see? He knows others can see, he knows something is not quite right, but he just lives with it because that's what he's got. We are all born with a certain set of tools. We can acquire some but we pretty much end with what we've got. The good news is we can sharpen, practice and perfect these tools. We need to understand that just because someone sharpens his screwdriver doesn't make him any better or less of a person than someone who strengthens his hammer.