Everybody feels emotions, some process better and feel much deeper. Some just suck at handeling them, and others can only feel little shallow bits... But everybody feels. Just ask REM.
I don't think martial arts is that weird either, but a lot of people act like it is.
And yeah, I don't want to put an official label on anything. I'm not a doctor and even if he is one thing or another, he can be summed up as a unique individual in the end.
Blunted Affect..very interesting. The way people interpret your responses, or lack of, must get annoying.
Good question about whether or not it is a ruse. I've been keeping that in the back of my mind the whole time, because of everything that I was reading about it. Plus, I'm a bit cynical about guys in general, because of past experiences.
I'll say this. One of the things I look for in a guy is that gut feeling. He gives me good vibes. I've also never caught him in any lies and people that know him tell the same, consistant stories. I'm still looking for something wrong with him.
He could be giving you good vibes because he's extremely charming and good at what he does. The people that are telling consistant stories about him have probably never dated him. Is he still on good terms with any of his previous girlfriends? I'm not trying to ruin your happines or anything, you just seem very taken and captivated by him already. Any red flags aren't going to be immediately recognized at this point.
you fucking russkies need to get a life and go back to russia! you fucking terrorists NEED to LEAVE USA ALONE
ot ; you're in love with a dick who probably only cares about your money, come to me honey and ill show you some real love, he's probably lost it in the big games and wants to fuck up your life real bad, watch out, sociopaths have proven out to be the MOST, MOST dangerous people out there, i myself have had a dark past, and i know what it's like
he does NOT love you, he's great at faking things, that's what makes a sociopath different from other normal people, they're so experienced and good at faking things that they could fake anything they wanted to, suicide, abuse, the list could go on and on, me, i was a sociopath, so i've known what it's like, maybe still am but some sense are just dead and do not want awakening, about when i was 14 years old, i could fake anything i wanted to, i pretended to live in the us and pretended to have an uncle who beats the shit out of me every single day and has me locked up and shit, i could fake anything i wanted to without getting caught; depression, suicide, not self harm, those are for pussies, well whatever, good luck in achieving whatever it is you're trying to achieve, but watch out, sociopaths have multiple personality disorders, at first they can act real nice but one fine day he'll act like you're nothing to him and treat you like complete and absolute shite, so yeah, beware, those things could actually happen.
Sociopaths are more than capable of feeling. They just don't acknowledge it in others. People seem to have a narrow vision of what a sociopath can be. That selfishness and lack of empathy equals a bad outcome. Even here. It's based on current definitions that include illegal behavior. While selfishness and lack of empathy may not be the best way to live a life, it doesn't mean it can't work. It doesn't mean he has to be dangerous to you. You seem aware of him and he seems to be aware of his own behavior. Only recognize that could be potentially dangerous in an instant. Not unlike a wild animal that's been tamed that could suddenly turn on you.
I personally find the idea of a woman who could kick my ass hot as hell (as long they don't look manly, eugh), so a woman who does martial arts I don't call weird, I'd call it kinky. :P
For my blunted affect, I'm lucky that I began at a performing art's school. Taught me everything I needed to appear normal enough, and more than enough means to understand studying people. Every once in a while I drop the act and they sort of wig out ala uncanny valley. I've recieved more than my share of "Don't you care at all!?" in my lifetime.
A lot just sort of see me as inspirationally stoic (especially during harder times in their lives). I know I wouldn't call it that myself, but it's not like I'm going to correct them.