hard to look nonchalant on the internet . Pudding is always best served hot , and eaten quickly. Unless its a cold dish ....and your a necrophiliac ;-).
Now that I believe.
How far have you gone? :)
It's in you, alright- you probably just haven't had a chance to really explore what you like. It isn't easy to find someone who will cater to - much less enjoy- kink like that. (I meant it when I said I know I'm a freak. :p) Even when you do, building the trust required for such a dynamic to reach its full potential takes time.
In a different life, it would be my pleasure to teach you.
But we can play a bit, here. Sometimes a small taste is all it takes to whet a voracious appetite. And I do enjoy stoking the fire. ;)
by AlteregoHow far have you gone? :)
I've noticed that if I'm with a girl that's, say, 5'0" and 100 lbs. they can get really aggressive with hitting and try to wresstle me down to the floor, etc. Probably because I'm over a foot taller and over 100 lbs heavier than they are.
I have some handcuffs and some girls have handcuffed me and then they bite/pinch/slap/other stuff.
And there have been times that we're banging away and I'll start pulling their hair and smacking their ass. They'll get into it and eventually I'll be going off like I'm Captain Ahab harpooning Moby Dick as I bury their head in the pillow, etc.
None of that is really S/M though. Strictly speaking there's only been one girl I've been with that's into that. She liked to slap me all over and liked to be hit with a belt. I'm pretty sure she had daddy issues. I got the feeling that she was working out emotional problems when she was hitting me.
In a different life, it would be my pleasure to teach you.
It is forbidden and can never be. Le sigh...
And I do enjoy stoking the fire. ;)
So I've noticed. :P
I have some real handcuffs too, but we lost the key, and now have to jimmy them open with a bobby pin. :)
You say that what you describe does not "qualify as s/m", but to my mind, it qualifies even less as vanilla sex. Long, elaborate scenes are great when you have the time, but sometimes you just want it quick, rough and dirty.
Belts are so much fun, and you can mark your target (ahem, "lover") with them fairly easily. Something irresponsible but edgy and hot is to wrap it like a noose around her neck while you're fucking- but be careful if you do it, or allow it to be done to you, because you can choke a person very easily in this manner, and not realize it, because it feels so damn good. If this really gets her wet and moaning, step it up a notch by taking a small blade, and swiftly slice it along her back, in areas she can conceal easily. Alternate pulling on the belt, slicing her back, and pumping hard and deep- brutally but slowly- so she can focus on every sensation.
You sound deliciously switchy. If you're in the mood for pain have her tie you to a chair, and alternate between sucking and slapping. Start out slow, building the intensity of the pain until you're close to the point of cumming, then make her untie you and fuck her unconscious. ;)
Some littke tricks that don't require any special equipment. Just be sure you obtain consent about the knife. (Wait until she's hot and ready to better manipulate consent.)
I've got to go watch my husband kick my ass on a kitesurf, now. He's catching on faster than me, as per fricking usual. :p
Later. :)
by AlteregoLong, elaborate scenes are great when you have the time, but sometimes you just want it quick, rough and dirty.
Testify!
Belts are so much fun, and you can mark your target (ahem, "lover") with them fairly easily. Something irresponsible but edgy and hot is to wrap it like a noose around her neck while you're fucking- but be careful if you do it, or allow it to be done to you, because you can choke a person very easily in this manner, and not realize it, because it feels so damn good. If this really gets her wet and moaning, step it up a notch by taking a small blade, and swiftly slice it along her back, in areas she can conceal easily. Alternate pulling on the belt, slicing her back, and pumping hard and deep- brutally but slowly- so she can focus on every sensation.
In the past I've sometimes put my hands on their shoulders so I could apply some pressure to the carotid artery. If they start to freak out I just say I was bracing myself.
You sound deliciously switchy. If you're in the mood for pain have her tie you to a chair, and alternate between sucking and slapping. Start out slow, building the intensity of the pain until you're close to the point of cumming, then make her untie you and fuck her unconscious. ;)
I have to go back and save your old posts like this one. I really do.
I've got to go watch my husband kick my ass on a kitesurf, now. He's catching on faster than me, as per fricking usual. :pLater. :)
Have fun. :)
Hah, I censored some of them.
I get a feel for you, and you are clearly really turned on by the thought of getting beaten and thrashed. I could be wrong, but it seems to me that the pleasure you derive from s/m is focused more upon the sensation, than upon dominating or submitting, per se. From this I glean that what gets you really hot is the pleasure you obtain from giving and receiving pain.
I am assuming a great deal, but I'm sure you have all manner of interesting kinks, and that I probably share most of them. Pressure on the cartoid feels great. You shouldn't waste time with women who would freak out over something like that. A vanilla sex life will never satisfy someone like you.
I had a good time kite surfing. I had a hard time controlling the kite, which is very powerful, yet requires a really gentle touch to maneuver (Not my strong suit, lol) But it's good for me, because it forces me to be patient, and subtle, as well as strong and hard- all at the behest of the elements, which require me to adapt to ever-changing conditions. It's a good fit for both my husband and I, because we are similar that way.