I don't ring all the bells, that's true enough. . My first diagnosis was in the military. I was young and stupid and I thought I had some guarantee of confidentiality. I thought he was supposed to help me, not merely evaluate me. I answered all questions honestly, including one that I still kick myself for answering at all, much less the way I did. Up until that point, I had been rated as an outstanding performer, so I talked my way into getting a second opinion. At the time, I felt like I was Macchiavelli himself, but in hindsight, I think that my CO just didn't want to lose a good soldier on the word of some major he didn't even know.
Later, when I was older and more willing to be honest with myself, I saw two civilian psychatrists because I wanted to be sure. Over four months, I was honest with them in ways that are impossible for me in regular life. I even told them about each other. I don't agree with the details of their diagnoses, but I'm willing to accept the broad strokes as fact. That was about 13 years ago. Self-awareness has made my life less difficult. I take the time to turn things over in my head before I let them out of my mouth. I moved to a new city and stopped lying about myself to make myself look better. It never really worked anyway. I don't borrow money to avoid defaulting on debt just because I don't like the idea of paying for something I already have. You get the idea. Where I can, I modify my behavior to suit expected norms. Things I can't change, I mostly just try to avoid. That's probably not healthy, but I'm getting by. Luckily, most of the stupid mistakes of my youth didn't stick me with a criminal record (it's only illegal if you get caught, right?)
Please don't misread my tone here. I'm not whining, exactly. I'm more or less fine with the way I live my life now. I just see articles like "10 Ways to Tell if Your Boyfriend is a Sociopath" and literally every depiction in a TV show or movie and I think why bother. Then I remember: Because I don't believe in Hell, but I do believe in prison. I've seen it and I never want to go there.