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 Well spoken Jay! The only problematic peice is that I am not sure exactly what "love" is... I want to be with her all of the time, I respect her, I would swim in front of a shark for her, I ALWAYS save the last cookie for her... But what happens the next time some dimwitted cow wants to give me a clandestine BJ? Can I put her feelings,(something I don't understand) before my own needs...? This is the nature of my question... has anyone else here been able to do that?

 ok after reading that... I would like to reanswer...

No, you will not live happily ever after... just enjoy the high while u can.

 If you have the intelligence to ask that question then you most likely have to skills to change your perception of reality. Short of that, it won't work.

 "If you have the intelligence to ask that question then you most likely
have to skills to change your perception of reality. Short of that, it
won't work."

An interesting concept Ole Scratch... Changing other people's perception of reality is how I do what I do- so of course I have that skill set. Change my perception to what, thou...? I have been trying to convince myself that I am "normal" since the first time I looked up as a child and realized that I was superior to the adults looking back down at me-so not sure how helpful that would be... guess I will have to figure out how to construct another, workable reality.

I do not want to hurt this woman. I will study on this idea and see if I can understand a way to weave it into a workable solution, for you are correct-only an alteration of my precieved reality will do!

 Bottom line is you can never change her perception as easily as you can change your own. Real question is can you walk away from ever doiing casual or online sex again. If the answer is no, then have fun til it blows up in your face. Don't ever try to be normal. Pointless, normal is a moving target.

 It won’t work! A genuine sociopath loves him/her-self way too much and will always put their needs before anyone else’s. Why do you want it to work so badly with this person? Just use them and move on.

You are asking a strange question. Are you actually the girlfriend of said sociopath trying to get a better answer by pretending to be him?  Otherwise, why would you care? Wouldn't you love her until you don't and then move on? Or are you asking whether there is a way to continue to get head from random women while maintaining a true deep committed relationship?  Um, not easy, but I'm sure its been done before. 

 What if somehow having that person in their life does involve a self love of a form? Maybe the desire and intensity is something he or she can not experience without that other person. BTW I also don't believe that anything we do is without some kind of reward. There is no such thing as an unselfish act. Altruism and "love" for the sake of love is an illusion. There is always something to be gained.

I'd give my two cents related to personal experience, but the one I was with is highly suspect to have Borderline Personality Disorder.

Doubt it has many parallels with your scenario.

 Use them and let them go. Get it over quickly and don't give them unneccessary hope for something lengthy. If you really think you care about them make it as painless as possible for them.