Turncoat said:They refer to the phenomenon itself as "Extinction", but I can't seem to find his "7 year" figure anywhere except maybe this study?
He said it randomly in class one day instead of it referring to our textbooks, so maybe he was wrong.
Cheers
In my case, my university pays for it. There's a difference, though. It's not traveling for fun, although I usually take some time off at the end of my visit and during the weekend.
What are they making you do?
I usually travel to advertise my group's work at conferences, to visit collaborators and, if someone invites me, to give lectures. It's pretty much up to me. My uni is quite flexible when it comes to travel funding, which I'm grateful for. Working with people in person definitely makes things easier.
Other than that, they're trying to sacrifice my soul to writing proposals. But that's just the necessary part of the process these days. Science appreciates resourcefulness more than knowledge. Not like in the good old days when you had these rich folks working in their basement doing their little science projects and they didn't have to care where the money came from.
You can always work abroad, then your home is not your birth place and you can get rid of some of the irritations.
Doing what, other than teaching English?
I'd probably need to be more of a Polyglot if I wanted to make that work right?
I'm not an expert, and I admit this is an issue. My fiancee is facing the same problem, we've been moving around quite a bit. She's the one following me. She's now a school teacher in a private school, teaching languages.
But if you're single you can choose to go anywhere. The world is a pretty large place. I was always stupid enough not to think about it; somehow I managed to still work things out. If you're really hell-bent on something, things tend to fall in place, at least for me.
Wanna show off bass skills here via vocaroo?
Not even a little bit, no.
I'm still just fiddling with learning what parts make what noises. I could at best do a like... one or two note rhythm?
Cmon
I was mostly saying in the first sentence that if the issue isn't vague (like lets say my former urge to avoid all cracks on the floor), that's an issue that can be directly tackled, as it's a direct action leading to a direct result; I can force myself to step on those cracks and gradually see through experience instead of purely logic that this shit's all in my own head. It's the stuff that's either more vague or less accessible that's harder to condition out.
Second paragraph was largely just me saying "It's easier to sort out the details of what's around you than plan every aspect of your life in advance".
Avoid all cracks on the floor? :D I found my soulmate. My fiancee will be jealous. I used to have those type of issues when I was younger. Strangely I've worked out most of them. For example, I would separate everything on my plate into different sections and eat them one-by-one. First the meat, then the potatoes, then the vegetables. I was fucking adamant about that.
There's a nice philosophical quote that went something like "If you can't do anything about it, you don't need to stress about it, because you can't do anything. If you can do something about it, you don't need to stress, because you can fix it."
Easier said than done...
A lot of stress accumulation I've seen comes from suspense, waiting for it to be over so that it can be accepted as a part of the past.
I know
Myself and basically everyone, yeah. It's largely responsible for separations between "The Mind" and "The Heart" for story writing symbols, as the shutting down of said "higher judgement" is usually associated with "erections" and expressions like "The heart wants what the heart wants".
Lampshading it by explaining it doesn't ever fix it either, but it does give the room to smugly tell them you told them so like a jerk.
I've heard of something similar, that the brain shuts off during sex. I can't say I don't enjoy sex but I don't really relate to a lot of things people seem to be saying about it.
I tried to masturbate to train myself to be happier when I was a kid. The idea was that whenever I was happy, I reward my brain to stay in that mode. So I jerked off when I was happy. I went on with that for months and months. That didn't work out. Instead of becoming happier, I just felt the urge to jerk off whenever something nice happened.
It's been on and off with all the ones I've lived with anyway, yeah.
There's no real reason to not meet people from this forum (other than maybe property damage risks). Who even seems remotely threatening here?
No one here's a socio, we're at most collectively so as a sort of culture than we are as people.
That's a fair point.
Jim could be genuinely threatening IRL if the stories about him are true.
The reason I'd personally be reluctant to meet people here is that my field of work is quite tight-knit. Everyone knows each other. If you get a crap reputation, everyone will know in an instant (I've seen that happen to a few people). If I was connected to any website with the name "sociopath community" it'd be problematic.
Not smiling to strangers
What part of California expects people to smile to strangers?
minding their own business
I'd figure that a lot of Californians would like that about another person...
I take it back. What I was trying to describe is the stereotypical nordic coldness. Here's one example:
asking where people (e.g. asians) are from
Hahaha how'd that go?
Horrible. I started off by saying I can't place her accent and then went on to guess "Taiwan", "China", "Japan", etc.
They are a bit excitable out there, yeah. A lot of them seem hungry for a story instead of just updating on your mood like it's the weather.
I find people from Midwest hungry for stories. They're really warm and friendly in a personal way. In the East Coast, people are quite relatable. In the LA, people are friendly, but in a way that I can't relate to.
California definitely feeds eccentricity, but I've found active listening to be pretty disarming for people who'd insist on being seen or addressed in specific ways.
They'll basically give you their scripts for free if you just sit there long enough.
I've tried, I think it may have something to do with me being a foreigner, but I could be wrong.