I think you’re being manipulated, just a blind guess based on the little info I have on the situation.
I would keep your distance. You’re following the patterns of a predatorial-style relationship, that commonly predates murder cases I’ve studied.
Women who like being looked at, fall into the traps of manipulation of a charming young man, and they use your excitement to their advantage. You should be weary of contradictions in behavior, sudden shifts or changes in how he treats you- or others. And life style efforts and behaviors- i.e, violence, low-life, jobless, theft, previous charges of any sort, and mentality/attitude toward society, about himself, others- and especially women, and how he treats his own parents. Is he touchy about certain subjects and flies off the handle. Does he try to control you. Is he easily jealous. Does he have a violent side. Does he think he can outsmart everyone. Does he have disdain for his mother. Can he hold a job longer than a month- or has he had long periods of unemployment. Does anything come up on a background check, criminal history. He could be using you for money or a place to stay, or just a fuck.
You fall too quickly and you’re letting yourself be blindsided by men who could be very dangerous, especially men on the internet seeking out women to take an interest in romantically.
Does he move quickly. Come on strong. Does he brag about himself a lot. What are his friends like. What’s his social media look like. Is he disrespectful or rude in anyway to other people. Is there a lack of interest in societal norms.
Playing video games and drinking beers with the boys is a good sign. If he’s anti-social, bad sign.
Is he misogynistic or anti-feminist, sexist, racist, homophobic etc. Engaging in hate speech of any kind. Tyrades. Rants.
Does he engage in violent behavior. Such as stabbing inanimate objects. Is he sexually forcible, or hyper focused with it. Or more blatantly, expressing an entitlement to sex and your body, your time, your praises.
Is he rushing. Is he overly inquisitive about how many boyfriends you’ve had, or questions that would involve assessing how much financial resources would be available to him. Such as- what do your parents do? Seems like a normal question to ask but- in my experience- it’s actually not something that crosses someone’s mind that you’re dating until late into the game. When they’re interested in you, they forget about other stuff. When stuff starts getting more serious though, then they start asking questions about the family maybe. But it’s still fairly minimal.
And lastly, does he ever play the victim. In any circumstances.
Is he overly erratic at times also, such as speeding- or yelling at their mother on the phone.
These are all bad signs. Just the basics to look out for. I’ve been abused a lot so, I can spot an abusive-predatorial type in about 2 seconds.
And what you’ve been describing lately, when displayed correlatively, in the timing and manner in which they have- these are like I said, symptoms or red flags of what I believe may be what can unravel into a bad situation, for a woman.
So I’m just warning you to be a little less head over heals, and a little more weary. It’s also very common women make excuses for men, like say he aligns to five of these things, but not all of them and- you find yourself wanting to negate the things based on other things he’s told you or, things yhou believe about him and his nature.
I want to make it very clear, you are wrong. If these signs are there, five or more- you’re very wrong about him.
