I think I explained this already somewhere
but basically, I mistook our connection as two people or whatever. As like romantic chemistry, when it wasn’t.
And that wasn’t clear to me until we were in person.
And I also remembered about two weeks into us dating that I was gay as fuck, despite being confused about the connection me and him were having and what it meant.
And I called him about it being straight up honest and explained to him very clearly that I was still 100% gay like I said it outright I was like “I’m gay” and started crying not knowing what to do
because I didn’t want our friendship to end but I knew it would because I’ve watched this happen countless other times with men. As soon as they realize they’re not gonna get what they want, they leave. Which is understandable but.
I was just sad about it.
I told him I didn’t want things to end but that I still like really needed to be with a girl.
And from thar point the only way I could like find the relationship possible was when we sort of mutually proposed the idea of a sort of open relationship
and then that helped me but, it also just reaffirmed the fact I was gay as I’m like... looking for girls. And stuff
and I’m like... what’s the point in faking this intimacy when I’m clearly gay?
But it I had hope in the back of my head that would somehow change (I’ve done this to myself a few times... lol moroniclh)
but baskcallt I convince myself “I CAN BE BI!!!!”
But it never works. Because it’s not genuinely what I want.
And yeah that was very apparent when we came together... I think he had hopes I would change or was sure I could but
I was just like trying too hard and it wasn’t natural and yeah... it was just bad!!! I’m sorry!!
And we never had sex, he goes around saying he did but there is a minor discretion there that I find almost too personal to share
I shouldn’t have to like tell everyone the explicit personal details of my relationships and my life for people to approve of my sexuality but
just trust me when I say I’m gay im very gay.
I have tried so many times to not be gay. I just can’t. It doesn’t work. I tried I’m sorry.
Gave it my best shot. But... I’m sorry... it’s so confusing
you like a person, but not romantically or physically or sexually. But you like the person, and you have a connection.
Twas confusion unfortunately.
But theres res this whole other thing going on with me in my “sexual identity” department that’s way in left field for me to be going anywhere near a heterosexual relationship and it made no sense for me to be doing that shit
I want my family to like me for who I am and so sometimes I try to change that so they won’t completely hate me. It’s a bad habit but. Yeah that’s why I had hopes for being bi. It would mend so many deep seated issues for me and my family.