Genuine question, I feel like the majority find themselves ugly.
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attractive to themselves, or to others?
Assuming the latter, people tend to skew either overconfident or insecure, and I agree it feels more tend to think they are uglier than they are. We tend to have negativity bias and our beauty standards are whack. it takes experience and lotsa feedback to build a more realistic self image
I’m admittedly in my scrub period because my focus right now is studying. But I am getting CO2 laser resurfacing as a way of doing something for myself.
I used to be more high maintenance
Has anybody tried Qoves — I think it’s probably a waste of money, but it could be helpful to someone who needs recommendations for how to improve their appearance both with and without surgery
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If you want to "feel attractive" just increase your health, and cater to the type of people you want to attract.
If you're a queer guy interested in guys, then you'll only be attractive to 'some' queer guys, which is a very low percentage of the population.
If you're bisexual and want to attract the finest of women, then make yourself out to be a man. A conservative one, and why ? Cause these types generally have their shit together more. Don't talk about being a bisexual either, she doesn't want to hear about it. She might even be like "So what are you saying ? Are you planning to fuck some guy ?"
I say this cause if I dated some chick and she was all "I'm bisexual" this means she's got one foot out the door, or it's a shit test to see if I'm all in for a threesome, which will backfire.
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For men, easily 30% feel attractive, cause they are. These guys can let themselves go and fall into the next category.
70% of men know they aren't and rely on things other than looks to attract others.
For men in the 70%, if they make a transformation and improve their attractiveness significantly, they will look extra better toward people who knew/know them. Say he was once a potato, but got hot, he'll be more approachable by people who knew him as a potato. Basically acquainting oneself is the only difficult thing.
For women, measuring how many of them feel attractive is borderline impossible. She can be a complete whale and she'll still collect likes and will have no problem turning down or accepting dates. Some guys have lower standards, and rightfully so. We're on a divine mission to plant our seeds, and settling is often better than endless chasing, in a time where chasing is a bad idea.
In short, a woman will have to be damn ugly to not attract anyone.
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Very few people are actually ugly to the point of no solution.
Being too attractive is also a thing too. You can read about beautiful women saying no one really approaches them, or asks them out. When she looks too good it defaults her to "taken" status, or she's probably someone who requires too much effort to keep. Ironically she isn't interested in the type of person who doesn't consider any of that either. Personally I think this type of woman should make the first move in 2026.
I go to Dollaramma a lot. It's close and it's cheap. Feels like the 80's and I'm satisfied with the shit I get from there. Yesterday I saw a nice piece of ass. Thick lower section, slim upper section. Long light brown brunette hair, pretty face. I'll remember her if I see her again. She was with who must've been her sister who was pushing around a baby stroller. What I noticed about them. The one pushing the baby stroller, when she glanced at me it was as though she was saying "you would've but you won't now" and seemed kinda bitter, while the one I found attractive kinda ignored me but gave off a sense of submissiveness. Women like her can feel insecure about their appearance. They spoke some exotic language, no idea.
I don't have to do anything and my expectations of success is low, however if I see them again, I'm going to say I remember you from last time, introduce myself and please allow me. Say I'm new in the area, I live over there, and I'm having a BBQ on the weekend, so swing by for a piece of chicken or whatever even if it's for a minute.
One of three things can happen.
1. They don't show up.
2. They show up with their boyfriends.
3. They show up.
If it's point 2, it's most likely some guy in the friendzone unknowingly providing some form of security and or image boost. This is actually more easy going than point 3. Just don't start bro'ing out with her buddy or else she'll lay you right next to him and give someone else her attention.
Keep them entertained, build a fire, give them the wifi password, ask what music would they like to hear and let it rip, do not neglect them or any guests, but stay close as you don't even have her yet. Can still lose.
Did I set this in motion or even try ? No. I had no plan when I saw her, but it's come to the point where I know I can, or think I can do it cause I'm a solid 2 points higher than I was 2 years ago, and I know based on this summers feedback.
Am I dreaming ? Certainly. It's possible and more possible than it was before. I went from a 5 to a 7 just from getting leaner. The rest is all based on character. If you show your intention is not to just be friends, she won't put you in that category, while if you'd like to be friends, or friends first, she's going to talk to you about some other guy and will most likely never change her mind, unless you make a statement and risk losing her forever.
HA HA HA. In 2026, the male counterpart must risk being called a creep while creeping. The very attractive guys have to creep too, or else he's not getting what he's after.
If you have a penis, attraction works differently than it does for the opposite gender in biological terms. You'll even have a face that looks like someone with a penis.
The human species also has a twist to how attractiveness is presented. It's normalized for females to use cosmetics to increase their appearance, but without the makeup, men are the beautiful ones.
