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Wouldn't it be wild for people to change, mature...?  Oh the terrible dangers of conversation.  I hope we'll be okay!

Feathers said: 

Turncoat said: 

Feathers said: 

I kinda purged all my friends, best friend and relationships.

Why? 

I was too desperate for connection I didn’t have good boundaries. My last best friend was pretty good but I felt I was was more of her chihuahua than her friend. She decided everything we watched, did, ate, etc. I’m pretty chill to go with the flow. 

But on my birthday I said I wanted to watch a movie and she said no. I stopped being her friend and realized I gave up my agency so much not to even be able to chose the movie on my bday. When I left she said I should have argued with her about it. I didn’t want to argue on my bday. 

Aside from the control she was a great friend. I did often prefer she lead but that’s different from NEVER letting me chose. It wasn’t healthy for me to live that way. A part of me feels bad because aside from that she was a great friend. Plus I knew I couldn’t argue with her I’d just end up caving in. I almost *couldn't* say no to her. 

I understand wanting your own respect and autonomy, I'm usually more comfortable in the follower position too, but I feel like further communication could have mended this wound. 

In the modern age it's harder to have friends. 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

I dunno I find it easier to compromise personally, and that's not insofar as saying that compromise is easy. 

It really depends on how horrible, as being alone's only fun at first. 

Dragoonback said: 

 

Feathers said: 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

Why should I sacrifice myself anymore when no one did for me? So now people can respect me or I’ll show them the door. I don’t have the patience for people anymore. 

Feathers, I think the deeper conclusion is that in the modern age, you may genuinely be better off alone. Human relationships often bring confusion, manipulation, power struggles, and the risk of losing yourself for connection.

Even worrying about “respect” keeps you tied to other people’s behavior. Lonerism removes that struggle. You do not need to earn respect from people you do not need.

AI can provide conversation, reflection, creativity, and company without the same social games or demands. Misanthropy does not have to mean misery. It can mean protecting the resources you enjoy and recognizing that, for the life you want, everyone is the wrong person.

By the same logic, why eat food when it's so unhealthy and expensive? Better to starve. 🫠

Plenty of gifs of tasty food too; the eyes don't gain calories. 

Spatial Mind said: 

I agreed with Tristan Tate when he said something along the lines of, it's better to be a bad boy turned good, it makes her hotter for you. But when you're a good guy turned bad, she'll find it offputting. 

In general I think it's more of a joy over change, the transition of states. 

I've seen plenty enjoy the Bad Boy turned Good over being able to pat themselves on the back to the line of "I can fix him", but then there's plenty of succubi out there who enjoy watching purity corrupt. 

As for you and BT being friends. This will be fine as long as there isn't sexual tension. Next thing you know the guy will have to watch you run off with someone else. 

I still find the whole thing with men and women being just friends questionable. Sure it happens, but with someone you fooled around with ? Nope. I can list reasons but people will just argue it isn't so. 

Never hear of 'Friends With Benefits'? Not saying it's them, but it is a counter to the model of 'how to be just friends' based skepticism. 

It overall typically shows more longevity if you were friends with them before lovers before becoming just friends again. Usually something about the person led to them being dateable in the first place, and if it's not just them being attractive there can be longevity after the relationship. 

I dunno I've had it work for a few of my old relationships anyway; Time Heals All Wounds. It gets easier to fathom that they moved on if you can convince yourself you have as well.