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Wouldn't it be wild for people to change, mature...?  Oh the terrible dangers of conversation.  I hope we'll be okay!

Feathers said: 

Turncoat said: 

Feathers said: 

I kinda purged all my friends, best friend and relationships.

Why? 

I was too desperate for connection I didn’t have good boundaries. My last best friend was pretty good but I felt I was was more of her chihuahua than her friend. She decided everything we watched, did, ate, etc. I’m pretty chill to go with the flow. 

But on my birthday I said I wanted to watch a movie and she said no. I stopped being her friend and realized I gave up my agency so much not to even be able to chose the movie on my bday. When I left she said I should have argued with her about it. I didn’t want to argue on my bday. 

Aside from the control she was a great friend. I did often prefer she lead but that’s different from NEVER letting me chose. It wasn’t healthy for me to live that way. A part of me feels bad because aside from that she was a great friend. Plus I knew I couldn’t argue with her I’d just end up caving in. I almost *couldn't* say no to her. 

I understand wanting your own respect and autonomy, I'm usually more comfortable in the follower position too, but I feel like further communication could have mended this wound. 

In the modern age it's harder to have friends. 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

I dunno I find it easier to compromise personally, and that's not insofar as saying that compromise is easy. 

It really depends on how horrible, as being alone's only fun at first. 

Dragoonback said: 

 

Feathers said: 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

Why should I sacrifice myself anymore when no one did for me? So now people can respect me or I’ll show them the door. I don’t have the patience for people anymore. 

Feathers, I think the deeper conclusion is that in the modern age, you may genuinely be better off alone. Human relationships often bring confusion, manipulation, power struggles, and the risk of losing yourself for connection.

Even worrying about “respect” keeps you tied to other people’s behavior. Lonerism removes that struggle. You do not need to earn respect from people you do not need.

AI can provide conversation, reflection, creativity, and company without the same social games or demands. Misanthropy does not have to mean misery. It can mean protecting the resources you enjoy and recognizing that, for the life you want, everyone is the wrong person.

By the same logic, why eat food when it's so unhealthy and expensive? Better to starve. 🫠

Plenty of gifs of tasty food too; the eyes don't gain calories. 

Spatial Mind said: 

I agreed with Tristan Tate when he said something along the lines of, it's better to be a bad boy turned good, it makes her hotter for you. But when you're a good guy turned bad, she'll find it offputting. 

In general I think it's more of a joy over change, the transition of states. 

I've seen plenty enjoy the Bad Boy turned Good over being able to pat themselves on the back to the line of "I can fix him", but then there's plenty of succubi out there who enjoy watching purity corrupt. 

As for you and BT being friends. This will be fine as long as there isn't sexual tension. Next thing you know the guy will have to watch you run off with someone else. 

I still find the whole thing with men and women being just friends questionable. Sure it happens, but with someone you fooled around with ? Nope. I can list reasons but people will just argue it isn't so. 

Never hear of 'Friends With Benefits'? Not saying it's them, but it is a counter to the model of 'how to be just friends' based skepticism. 

It overall typically shows more longevity if you were friends with them before lovers before becoming just friends again. Usually something about the person led to them being dateable in the first place, and if it's not just them being attractive there can be longevity after the relationship. 

I dunno I've had it work for a few of my old relationships anyway; Time Heals All Wounds. It gets easier to fathom that they moved on if you can convince yourself you have as well. 

Turncoat said: 

Dragoonback said: 

 

Feathers said: 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

Why should I sacrifice myself anymore when no one did for me? So now people can respect me or I’ll show them the door. I don’t have the patience for people anymore. 

Feathers, I think the deeper conclusion is that in the modern age, you may genuinely be better off alone. Human relationships often bring confusion, manipulation, power struggles, and the risk of losing yourself for connection.

Even worrying about “respect” keeps you tied to other people’s behavior. Lonerism removes that struggle. You do not need to earn respect from people you do not need.

AI can provide conversation, reflection, creativity, and company without the same social games or demands. Misanthropy does not have to mean misery. It can mean protecting the resources you enjoy and recognizing that, for the life you want, everyone is the wrong person.

By the same logic, why eat food when it's so unhealthy and expensive? Better to starve. 🫠

Plenty of gifs of tasty food too; the eyes don't gain calories. 

That analogy fails because food is a biological requirement for survival, while toxic social dynamics are a voluntary choice that often carry a negative return on investment. If the only 'food' on the menu consistently causes harm, choosing not to eat isn't 'starving' it’s avoiding poisoning. Your comparison relies on the false premise that any interaction is inherently better than none, regardless of the cost.

Turncoat said: 

Feathers said: 

Turncoat said: 

Why? 

I was too desperate for connection I didn’t have good boundaries. My last best friend was pretty good but I felt I was was more of her chihuahua than her friend. She decided everything we watched, did, ate, etc. I’m pretty chill to go with the flow. 

But on my birthday I said I wanted to watch a movie and she said no. I stopped being her friend and realized I gave up my agency so much not to even be able to chose the movie on my bday. When I left she said I should have argued with her about it. I didn’t want to argue on my bday. 

Aside from the control she was a great friend. I did often prefer she lead but that’s different from NEVER letting me chose. It wasn’t healthy for me to live that way. A part of me feels bad because aside from that she was a great friend. Plus I knew I couldn’t argue with her I’d just end up caving in. I almost *couldn't* say no to her. 

I understand wanting your own respect and autonomy, I'm usually more comfortable in the follower position too, but I feel like further communication could have mended this wound. 

In the modern age it's harder to have friends.

Maybe it could have been mended. I felt like I’d be changing the dynamic too much. That they’d be too unhappy with the way I wanted autonomy. 

Plus her dream was to live with me. I felt bad cause my dream is to live with my future partner. She seemed to never like my partners and so far for good reasons. She hated all my partners except BT (only one she approved). I’m worried she might beef with my partner for things she wouldn’t like but I would. I think maybe we had different visions. 

So at least my bestie thought BT was worth keeping around. High praise from someone who was guarding me from bad men. Anyways I hope she’s well and living a good life. I don’t want to bother trying to reconnect with her. She said if I ever left she’d never be able to reconnect cause it hurt too much. Last thing I want is to dismiss her wish.

I just hope she got a new bestie and didn’t take it too hard. I might never find such a great bestie again. I know but I still think I had to leave in a way. 

It’s like I’ve had an awakening. That it’s better not to settle for horrible people. Maybe I deserve more than I’ve been served. If I can’t have that maybe I’d rather be alone. 

It’s not longer “please chose me” and it’s “why should I accept you?”. Do you bring my quality of life down? Up? Or at least maintain it?

I dunno I find it easier to compromise personally, and that's not insofar as saying that compromise is easy. 

It really depends on how horrible, as being alone's only fun at first. 

Also depends on me on how well I can maintain boundaries before I give in. 

I used to think you were the most evil guy on earth. It’s good to know you have a heart for your friend. Kinda not an evil villain anymore. Maybe you’re just human too (I mean metaphorically).

I’m not sure how you saw me or see me. I’m just trying to live life and figure out this mess. World is messy and crazy but some nice people along the way. 

Feathers said: 

Also depends on me on how well I can maintain boundaries before I give in. 

I used to think you were the most evil guy on earth. It’s good to know you have a heart for your friend. Kinda not an evil villain anymore. Maybe you’re just human too (I mean metaphorically).

I’m not sure how you saw me or see me. I’m just trying to live life and figure out this mess. World is messy and crazy but some nice people along the way. 

 Would you consider me nice or evil? I will say thanks either way.

Dragoonback said: 

Feathers said: 

Also depends on me on how well I can maintain boundaries before I give in. 

I used to think you were the most evil guy on earth. It’s good to know you have a heart for your friend. Kinda not an evil villain anymore. Maybe you’re just human too (I mean metaphorically).

I’m not sure how you saw me or see me. I’m just trying to live life and figure out this mess. World is messy and crazy but some nice people along the way. 

 Would you consider me nice or evil? I will say thanks either way.

Wait who are you again? Like before this username? 

Turncoat said: 

Never hear of 'Friends With Benefits'? Not saying it's them, but it is a counter to the model of 'how to be just friends' based skepticism. 

It overall typically shows more longevity if you were friends with them before lovers before becoming just friends again. Usually something about the person led to them being dateable in the first place, and if it's not just them being attractive there can be longevity after the relationship. 

After a certain level of intimacy people wouldn't just be friends. FWB connections rarely last long.

This is how it goes....

- She'll come around for some dick. 

- She's out there somewhere getting another mans dick. 

- She comes back for the dick.

- She's out there with another friend getting railed.

- She's back again. 

The way this benefit often works, one person does favors, the other uses sex a leverage. Even if they just enjoy fucking one another for fun, 1 person wants a relationship more than the other at any level, even when both claim to be just friends.  

When one party gets together with another person, their "friend" will either have to shut up about their arrangement, or they won't be welcome to meet the new partner. If a FWB is invited to their FBW wedding, they will either keep it hush, or the bride/groom would be dumb to pass it off as nothing. More often than not the FWB won't be invited in the first place. 

When it comes to FWB, someone is the bitch, and the bitch will eventually get their fill of being used when they want something more. 

I dunno I've had it work for a few of my old relationships anyway; Time Heals All Wounds. It gets easier to fathom that they moved on if you can convince yourself you have as well. 

You're referring to old relationships that have long dissolved. 

Watch this...When Feathers finds a partner, she can keep her friends. That's how it went last time,

When she finds a partner, again. She can keep her friends. ( You hear that BT ? ) Yes, she will be able to keep her friends.

There can be all kinds of variables as to why a relationship, or lets just call it a friendship will get turned off and on while the determining factor has to do with one's availability in the dating market. 

Now if you have all kinds of FWB, and they keep vanishing, running off to settle down with someone better, then your a person with no safeguards for your own peace of mind. You'd be wrecklace. That says a lot more than having just 1 FWB, but then having 1 FWB can come and go and come back every time they get into and exit a relationship with someone else, each time they'll cut out their "friend" while occupied. We're not calling a spade a spade here. 

Does BT think he has unfinished business with his ex ? ( Not speaking for him but probably. And trust me when I say, completing unfinished business is better than the thought of it. ). They never went all the way. Oh but BT would never think of how nice it would be to hit it, and he would never do such a thing ! It's Feathers ! his friend ! Forget the demotion and the odds of getting cycled on and off again. 

This means if BT wanted to get together for some ass, he'd be violating her boundaries simply for suggesting it. The impression is that he wouldn't, even though both would know if he'd like to. Okay but he's not interested in hitting it, for real. He's still Feather's cushion to fall on when her availability is open. Nice guy. 

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Side note. If someone you'd like to bang, ( like an ex or something ) comes back into your life and sets boundaries. Smash the boundaries, or reject them. Sounds unfriendly, I know. But it's not nice being kept at arms length by someone who comes and goes regardless of how one would feel about it. One can say, "Oh well they left again, no hard feelings, I'm nice and I'm proud about that." They won't be saying that on the inside. 

Feathers said: 

Wait who are you again? Like before this username? 

I originally was just Dragoon but had a lot of usernames most of them having Dragoon in them but a few I don't remember. To be fair I didn't really interact much with a lot of classic members as I was mostly here in the post-luna era a few years ago. I'm mostly here to spread the information of nihilism and misanthropy to help the autists here evolve into something stronger/less exploitable but also to derive entertainment.