In Chaotik's case, rather than needing to find himself he ought to explore others to develop himself.
He is stagnating because he cannot take others in.
When you say that, it's hard for me to conceptualize what you are exactly saying by that.
Maybe this is where to start then.
Is it hard for you to conceptualize how another person's thinking?
I interact with people on the daily, and there are friends I have that I talk to about deep shit and confide in, and such.
Even when it comes to them you make it all about you when talking about them.
Except I don't, we talk a great deal about shit they do, about what I do or topics that dont even include us ourselves like history, shows, news, politics and such. I rarely ever talk about myself unless its venting about my life or something that happened in a day.
Most of the time in regards to personal lives, its my friends talking to me about shit, venting, and if they want it I give advice. Since shit can be stressful. I don't consider myself an amazing advice giver but in my group for so long Ive been the mediator and shit and for the most part my friends tell me I have good ideas and such.
Its not hard for me at all to conceptualize what others think. I can pretty mucb tell when my friends are upset or if something is up and I have a pretty good intuition of guessing what it is based on how they act.