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Xadem said: 

hypothetically speaking if you like someone's personality and have great affection and chemistry also and emotional safety, feel like you grow together and are on a similar level intellectually but you lost the attraction to them and they still very much want you, so you feel like you're the problem and it's giving guilt and leading to unhealthy coping habits and they notice somehting's off and you hope maybe it's something less superficial and no you're not some ape who only cares about looks and yes they're beautiful but really you kinda just wanna fuck around

what do you do? i meanin a hypothetical situation what would you do? 

 Think of that person in really hot situations and masturbate to them in those situations. Or while looking at a pic of em. Your brain will create a sexual association with them. If you have a sexual relationship try having more sex. Trust me I have been married for four years and I can deal with being turned off to someone by now in the sense of getting the switch back on. This is an important skill to have for a long term relationship, because in those the attraction does not last forever. However, if you fall out of love, that's a little harder but not impossible.

Delora said: 

Xadem said: 

hypothetically speaking if you like someone's personality and have great affection and chemistry also and emotional safety, feel like you grow together and are on a similar level intellectually but you lost the attraction to them and they still very much want you, so you feel like you're the problem and it's giving guilt and leading to unhealthy coping habits and they notice somehting's off and you hope maybe it's something less superficial and no you're not some ape who only cares about looks and yes they're beautiful but really you kinda just wanna fuck around

what do you do? i meanin a hypothetical situation what would you do? 

 Think of that person in really hot situations and mastribate to them in those situations. Or while looking at a pic of em. Your brain will create a sexual association with the 

hmmmmm NICE

i will do that

RIGHT NOW

 i mean i'll let my friend know

Xadem said: 

 i mean i'll let my friend know

 If you have a sexual relationship try having more sex. Trust me I have been married for four years and I can deal with being turned off to someone by now in the sense of getting the switch back on. This is an important skill to have for a long term relationship, because in those the attraction does not last forever. However, if you fall out of love, that's a little harder but not impossible.

🌺🐀 🌺

Attraction is like a wave that rises is falls on a long term basis. You might feel one way now but different the next. If you love the person, the effort to learn to rekindle is worth it. 

Delora said: 

Xadem said: 

 i mean i'll let my friend know

 If you have a sexual relationship try having more sex. Trust me I have been married for four years and I can deal with being turned off to someone by now in the sense of getting the switch back on. This is an important skill to have for a long term relationship, because in those the attraction does not last forever. However, if you fall out of love, that's a little harder but not impossible.

 

🌺🐀 🌺

 yeah the sex itself isn't an issue per se, though it's more stale now. i don't know relationships used to be simpler

You can also ask yourself about other factors such as, why has the attraction gotten less? Are you bored with the person? Is it them or a habit or something they did or are doing? Is it both? Is it you? Open communication is important in a relationship and trying to fix problems overtime is also important 

Xadem said: 

Delora said: 

Xadem said: 

 i mean i'll let my friend know

 If you have a sexual relationship try having more sex. Trust me I have been married for four years and I can deal with being turned off to someone by now in the sense of getting the switch back on. This is an important skill to have for a long term relationship, because in those the attraction does not last forever. However, if you fall out of love, that's a little harder but not impossible.

 

🌺🐀 🌺

 yeah the sex itself isn't an issue per se, though it's more stale now. i don't know relationships used to be simpler

 Have you tried new foreplay or positions? And again I just reiterate improving your relationship and spending quality time together on a consistent basis 

Delora said: 

You can also ask yourself about other factors such as, why has the attraction gotten less? Are you bored with the person? Is it them or a habit or something they did or are doing? Is it both? Is it you? Open communication is important in a relationship and trying to fix problems overtime is also important 

 thank you this is actually decent advice. 

my friend is a closed book and has always had issues opening up, but this time it is worth pushing through and communicating. 

what's the hottest situation you can imagine someone in?