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I am not the problem,  idealizing the wrong people was the problem  (and unfortunately having a biological father who treated me horribly growing up caused me to look in the wrong places for love and respect for a long time-  but no longer that phase in my life is over)

compassionatequeen said: 

I am not the problem,  idealizing the wrong people was the problem  (and unfortunately having a biological father who treated me horribly growing up caused me to look in the wrong places for love and respect for a long time-  but no longer that phase in my life is over)

What if neither you nor they were the problem? 

Turncoat said: 

compassionatequeen said: 

I am not the problem,  idealizing the wrong people was the problem  (and unfortunately having a biological father who treated me horribly growing up caused me to look in the wrong places for love and respect for a long time-  but no longer that phase in my life is over)

What if neither you nor they were the problem? 

the problem is idealizing people who do not share the same values as me,  soo the problem is not a person it is a behavior

compassionatequeen said: 

Turncoat said: 

compassionatequeen said: 

I am not the problem,  idealizing the wrong people was the problem  (and unfortunately having a biological father who treated me horribly growing up caused me to look in the wrong places for love and respect for a long time-  but no longer that phase in my life is over)

What if neither you nor they were the problem? 

 

the problem is idealizing people who do not share the same values as me,  soo the problem is not a person it is a behavior

 

 

 Yeah, but who's behavior?  Who caused the behavior and who acted under it?

how many times do I have to say that the behavior was the problem and not people,  people are not their behaviors

I feel sad that jealous people want to try to bring me down but I know how absolutely amazing that I am and no one can convince me otherwise anymore  😊😇

compassionatequeen said: 

how many times do I have to say that the behavior was the problem and not people,  people are not their behaviors

 

There's going to be a lot to unpack here.  Let's start with causation...  People do a thing, consequences happen.  Was it the person or their behavior?  And if it's their behavior, who behaved in such a way that the consequences happened?  How did that behavior come about?  How semantic do we need to get?  You know where this is leading to.  And it's not going to be cozy and abstractly dismissible.

oh yes it is,  because I believe that everyone is intrinsically perfectly good and lovable  (these are my spiritual beliefs and no one can take them away from me or force me to change my mind about them),  but people can have problem behaviors  and while it is their responsibility to fix them,  that does not mean that they are not intrinsically perfectly lovable and good  but not everyone is compatible to be in a romantic relationship with everyone else,  and everyone is on their own journey and can choose if they want to embody the truth that they are intrinsically perfectly lovable and good or not  :)

for example,  your behavior creeps me out and I think that it is cringe that you try to get with women much younger than yourself and also cringe that you comment on my stuff,  and I find your behavior gross and repulsive but not you as a person  but you are still responsible for your behavior and responsible to stop when a woman tells you that you are creeping her the fuck out and that she is going to mute you if you continue creepily commenting on her stuff

and when a child has a parent who abuses her in all sorts of ways and tells her that she is bad and worthless for no truthful or honest or good reason,  IT IS NOT HER FAULT,  AND IT IS NOT HER FAULT THAT SHE HAD TO LEARN HOW TO COPE WITH THAT AT A VERY YOUNG AGE WHEN SHE COULD BARELY UNDERSTAND WHAT WAS GOING ON  AND YOU ARE BEHAVING LIKE A FUCKING DISGUSTING CREEP FOR EVEN SLIGHTLY TRYING TO IMPLY ANYTHING OTHER THAN THIS,  GET A FUCKING LIFE YOU BEHAVE LIKE A PERVERTED PREDATOR

This is great.  One comment you don't apparently like and you turn.  I guess that's no surprise from your behavior, history and other signs.  Also the fact you are more projecting than having actual facts-of-the-matter or know much more than what you are supposing in order to validate yourself in the face of honest discussion.

I suspect you will see this, but then incorporate this as some sort of self-revelation, blind to the fact this is what you do.

You forget plenty of times I've been actually talking to you and offering real advice and concern.  The way you want to turn around and throw away any real friendship here is very telling.  You are dead wrong here and you will spazz out now about it and blame anyone else but yourself.

I'm a real person that had real conversations (I thought) with you.  Whatever reason you keep doing this bullshit, you need to figure out and talk to me after that.  Re-examine what we've talked about and the reality of it, versus this rant you're on.