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Meaning of being female


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What is the meaning of being female?

After my divorce, I have had some time to think about my sexuality.

I seem to be attracted to women, after all, and not men, like I previously thought. I was in a relationship with a guy, but it felt "wrong." So I'm definitely not attracted to men, even if I sometimes have trouble understanding women. After some soul-searching, however, I realized that I am a woman.

Honestly, I really regret that I divorced my wife. After I discussed with her, she doesn't want to have me back. I'm not angry that she doesn't want me, I'd understand after I effectively gave her a big F u by wanting to divorce her after 8 years of relationship and having kids. I think at least partly she feels odd because I am now a woman, and she is straight. She doesn't want to date a woman. But my point is that I didn't suddenly become a woman, I always was a woman.

It's such a drag, but I'm now trying to get a certificate that says that I am a woman and to make it retroactive, so I was actually always a woman, to prove that she was already in a relationship with a woman when she was with me. I'm hoping she will not find dating a woman so weird if I have a certificate that proves that I was already a woman when she started dating me. But honestly I don't think it will work. She's not reading my texts.

It's really surprising to me that I found out that I am a woman, because I don't feel feminine at all. I feel very masculine. I do most things that men, not women, do, like I enjoy cars, boxing, etc. I also like women. I think that's why this has been so confusing for me. It really took me by surprise.

I'm full of regret. Honestly, in a bit of a dark place right now.

Any help/encouraging words? I feel awful.

last edit on 10/7/2022 12:08:51 PM
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men are nasty when they hit puberty. you will never be a woman. you arent attracted to men and nobody is attracted to nasty trannies.

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What is the meaning of being female?

 

 Science got woke and couldn't give you a straight answer eh ? ( get it ? "Straight" answer )

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Something happened to you.

Maybe you made the decision to consume more soy and in turn your estrogen got boosted, or maybe there was some crazy accident or something. Some kind of deficiency that keeps messing with your personal preference.

Maybe you're medicated and this is some kind of side effect.

- You got married and had children.

- Thought you were gay, and who knows, maybe you were for the time being.

- You divorced your wife of 8 years, and set off to have a gay relationship with some stranger.

- You change your mind again, except this time, you think you qualify as woman. Plus you crawled back to your ex wife, for..... your perception of a lesbian relationship ?

The last 3 points happened within the span of months.

You have a disorder for sure. At some point you'll probably get defensive and argue that you are a woman, but no. You're clearly not right. 

You're very self absorbed too. In my opinion you're a destroyed man. Still you fulfilled your purpose and had children, which is something I personally cannot boast, so you should be able to do whatever you want, Cross dress, be glamorous whatever, but don't bullshit yourself and claim to be a woman because you want to be pretty. What is it though ? You want more male attention or something ? 

Maybe when you were into men, being one made you feel special, but now that special feeling is gone as you're attracted to women again, so you want the world to join you in pretending you're a female.

 

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I'm thankful that none of my partners ever found it too weird that I leaned femme, there's types for everyone out there. 

It's such a drag, but I'm now trying to get a certificate that says that I am a woman and to make it retroactive, so I was actually always a woman, to prove that she was already in a relationship with a woman when she was with me. I'm hoping she will not find dating a woman so weird if I have a certificate that proves that I was already a woman when she started dating me. But honestly I don't think it will work.

lol

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last edit on 10/7/2022 4:34:35 PM
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All I can say is that I hope you can find the satisfaction and happiness you seek. I'm not one to cast trans people as frauds because I think there is something to this phenomenon as from what I can gather this isn't as new as people want to think it is, and it's existed across time. I also just can't be bothered to give a shit what people do unless it personally affects me or actively harms others that I care about. It's wasteful energy and I have always been rather chill with trans people, I just hate liberalism because I feel as though it makes them look bad and that they are prone to becoming liberals because democrats act like they will hear their voices and so they feel as though they owe something. In the end they get screwed over along with other minorities. Though that's my rambling. 

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Something happened to you.

Nothing happened to me.

Maybe you made the decision to consume more soy and in turn your estrogen got boosted, or maybe there was some crazy accident or something. Some kind of deficiency that keeps messing with your personal preference.

Nothing changed, actually.

Maybe you're medicated and this is some kind of side effect.

- You got married and had children.

- Thought you were gay, and who knows, maybe you were for the time being.

- You divorced your wife of 8 years, and set off to have a gay relationship with some stranger.

- You change your mind again, except this time, you think you qualify as woman. Plus you crawled back to your ex wife, for..... your perception of a lesbian relationship ?

The last 3 points happened within the span of months.

"Crawled back"? You know nothing about my relationships. I was always good to my wife, whom I treasure. It's pretty shitty how you snoop into my relationships and comment on my sexuality and gender, like you have any right to do that.

You have a disorder for sure. At some point you'll probably get defensive and argue that you are a woman, but no. You're clearly not right. 

Ok name one thing that distinguishes me from women.

You're very self absorbed too.

How so?

In my opinion you're a destroyed man. Still you fulfilled your purpose and had children, which is something I personally cannot boast, so you should be able to do whatever you want, Cross dress, be glamorous whatever, but don't bullshit yourself and claim to be a woman because you want to be pretty. What is it though ? You want more male attention or something ? 

Do you think we exist only to please men or something? And no, I don't want to be pretty. In fact, I want to be masculine. But it doesn't make me a man. I can only really pretend to be a man, and I'm tired of pretending. You say that I'm pretending to be a woman. Loled. I'm legit a woman, against my wishes. If anything, I'm a woman who wants to be a man. But frankly I'm tired of pretending and it makes me depressed just not accepting who I am, so now I will embrace my true identity.

Maybe when you were into men, being one made you feel special, but now that special feeling is gone as you're attracted to women again, so you want the world to join you in pretending you're a female.

Pretending? I literally am female. Why are you pretending to be a man?

I'm thankful that none of my partners ever found it too weird that I leaned femme, there's types for everyone out there.

Yeah it's nice to have that. You know, they used to think that being gay was a mental disorder.

 I think you just want to beat me when I'm down, like a coward. You noticed this topic and, with malicious glee, you jumped on the opportunity to make me into the "example" you always wanted. I thought you were better than this.

Chaotik said: 

All I can say is that I hope you can find the satisfaction and happiness you seek. I'm not one to cast trans people as frauds because I think there is something to this phenomenon as from what I can gather this isn't as new as people want to think it is, and it's existed across time.

I don't really like the word "trans" because it implies, implicitly, that there is a "transition." Women and men have always been women/men, it's not like they switched at some point.

I also just can't be bothered to give a shit what people do unless it personally affects me or actively harms others that I care about. It's wasteful energy and I have always been rather chill with trans people, I just hate liberalism because I feel as though it makes them look bad and that they are prone to becoming liberals because democrats act like they will hear their voices and so they feel as though they owe something. In the end they get screwed over along with other minorities. Though that's my rambling.

Finally something everyone can get behind.

If you really think about it, sexuality is very fluid. Most people like both men and women. It's really not that clear cut.

last edit on 10/8/2022 10:45:57 AM
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have you felt like you were a woman since you were a very young child ?  just curious when was the first time that you kind of in your mind felt / knew that you were a woman

 

 

last edit on 10/8/2022 10:55:07 AM
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AppleGenius said:
Yeah it's nice to have that. You know, they used to think that being gay was a mental disorder.

I'd still argue it is when you consider that they're born with something that conflicts against the biological imperative, but that the word "disorder" is stigmatized to the point of people taking offense over it. 

When I see a gay person offended over it being referred to as a disorder, they are unintentionally putting themselves above other disordered people as if they are better than them, as if they are more acceptable than them, which to me reads as a symptom of how disorder is treated overall by society. 

I think you just want to beat me when I'm down, like a coward. You noticed this topic and, with malicious glee, you jumped on the opportunity to make me into the "example" you always wanted. I thought you were better than this.

It's moreover that you acting like a piece of paper will fix things is silly. 

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last edit on 10/8/2022 12:16:30 PM
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have you felt like you were a woman since you were a very young child ?  just curious when was the first time that you kind of in your mind felt / knew that you were a woman

Not sure for Legga's POV, but this thought has stalked my brain since I was five or six. 

The idea of a "Tijuana botch job" was very dissuading when younger when compared to the stuff available now, but I've always identified more with women than men and they seemed to subconsciously pick up on that when it came to peer grouping. 

Anyone who learned later I was trans wasn't really that shocked. 

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last edit on 10/8/2022 12:20:52 PM
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have you felt like you were a woman since you were a very young child ?  just curious when was the first time that you kind of in your mind felt / knew that you were a woman

When was the first time? It's more like I felt like I wanted to be a man, but I was always a woman. I think I've always known, on some level, that I am a woman.

I'd still argue it is when you consider that they're born with something that conflicts against the biological imperative, but that the word "disorder" is stigmatized to the point of people taking offense over it. 

Yeah it's not a disorder, it's fully natural and genetic.

When I see a gay person offended over it being referred to as a disorder, they are unintentionally putting themselves above other disordered people as if they are better than them, as if they are more acceptable than them, which to me reads as a symptom of how disorder is treated overall by society.

But a disorder is something to be offended about. It's a deficiency. Being gay or a lesbian is not a deficiency.

I think you just want to beat me when I'm down, like a coward. You noticed this topic and, with malicious glee, you jumped on the opportunity to make me into the "example" you always wanted. I thought you were better than this.

It's moreover that you acting like a piece of paper will fix things is silly.

And here you are, joining him. Do you even stop to ever consider how much I want to save my marriage? Do you ever consider my feelings when you make these posts?

Not sure for Legga's POV, but this thought has stalked my brain since I was five or six. 

The idea of a "Tijuana botch job" was very dissuading when younger when compared to the stuff available now, but I've always identified more with women than men and they seemed to subconsciously pick up on that when it came to peer grouping. 

Anyone who learned later I was trans wasn't really that shocked.

What is the "Tijuana botch job".

That's a very interesting story.

I don't identify with women at all. In fact, I do not understand women. They are some kind of aliens to me. Yet, I am a woman. It's interesting how you and I are so different. I don't want to be something, I just am. You want to connect with women, to be part of them like lions want to be part of a pack of lions. I'm like a lion who wants to be a hippo. That's how I feel.

last edit on 10/8/2022 1:59:00 PM
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