I have this issue where I attract the unhappy and disordered. In real life, I keep to myself. I'm an introvert. Humble. I'm like how Inquirer is here.
The problem is, BPDs and bipolar women find me intriguing for some reason (yes diagnosed ones). I'm beginning to see a clear pattern. I want to be surrounded by normal people, not unpredictable, impulsive maniacs.
What am I doing wrong?
You have no boundaries. In the real world normal people would never have bpd or bipolar people in their life or friend circle unless it is family, because it is toxic and absolutely destructive. You have to be mentally ill yourself to put up with this shit. You were talking about transitioning from here to real life in another thread. So I assume you were mentally ill before and got better etc. Maybe you still apply the same level of tolerance as before. But if you are normal you don't really need to. There is really no reason for normal people to want to hang out with pd people, it is exhausting. So I'm guessing you are mentally ill. To give you the benefit of a doubt since you were talking about being an autistic introvert it could be that you just had a bad sample and you just need to meet/frequent somewhere where normal people are. Everyone meets mentally ill people and PD types like bpd etc it is just when I smell it (and that's in like 5 seconds) I say nopeee don't want that for my life and I never talk to them again. What makes you put up with it? Start there.
You have no boundaries. In the real world normal people would never have bpd or bipolar people in their life or friend circle unless it is family, because it is toxic and absolutely destructive. You have to be mentally ill yourself to put up with this shit. You were talking about transitioning from here to real life in another thread. So I assume you were mentally ill before and got better etc. Maybe you still apply the same level of tolerance as before. But if you are normal you don't really need to. There is really no reason for normal people to want to hang out with pd people, it is exhausting. So I'm guessing you are mentally ill. To give you the benefit of a doubt since you were talking about being an autistic introvert it could be that you just had a bad sample and you just need to meet/frequent somewhere where normal people are. Everyone meets mentally ill people and PD types like bpd etc it is just when I smell it (and that's in like 5 seconds) I say nopeee don't want that for my life and I never talk to them again. What makes you put up with it? Start there.
Great a self-proclaimed therapist maligns or shuns bipolar persons. It’s not like alcoholism you know where someone chooses to be that way.
I'm like how Inquirer is here.
Inquirer is like the least humble person here. He's extremely proud to the point it should be considered a disorder. He wants to appear humble, just as he wants to appear like he's of the vulcan race from star trek, but his actual personality is a pretty far cry from the ideal he tries to project. I think Turncoat did a pretty good job at exposing that. The guy's personality is made up. He's just consistent to the point that he has people fooled.
The problem is, BPDs and bipolar women find me intriguing for some reason (yes diagnosed ones). I'm beginning to see a clear pattern. I want to be surrounded by normal people, not unpredictable, impulsive maniacs.
What am I doing wrong?
Why do you not want to be surrounded by unpredictable, impulsive maniacs? Anyway, perhaps try tinder. Make yourself normal and boring and make that your profile. By doing so, I believe you will attract like-minded people.
You have no boundaries. In the real world normal people would never have bpd or bipolar people in their life or friend circle unless it is family, because it is toxic and absolutely destructive. You have to be mentally ill yourself to put up with this shit.
I've seen these same people reject and even bully others for entertainment. The reason they adore and flock to me isn't because they have no other options.
Another pattern I've noticed is disordered people tend to have assertive personalities. Perhaps that's why they're into passive guys who keep to themselves?
I've never approached women first. They come to me. The year is 2022, feminism has been on the rise for a while now. Do I really need to start doing that to find a normal person?
You were talking about transitioning from here to real life in another thread. So I assume you were mentally ill before and got better etc.
I am mental. I show symptoms of NPD, Schizoid PD and OCD, but I am not diagnosed.
Maybe you still apply the same level of tolerance as before. But if you are normal you don't really need to. There is really no reason for normal people to want to hang out with pd people, [...]
What makes you put up with it? Start there.
Supply, satisfaction knowing others desire me. It is true I'm very tolerant. I lack empathy, so even if they've done terrible things, I wouldn't really mind as long as I'm not the one affected by their actions.
What would you do or how would you change if you were in my shoes?
You have no boundaries. In the real world normal people would never have bpd or bipolar people in their life or friend circle unless it is family, because it is toxic and absolutely destructive. You have to be mentally ill yourself to put up with this shit.
I've seen these same people reject and even bully others for entertainment. The reason they adore and flock to me isn't because they have no other options.
Another pattern I've noticed is disordered people tend to have assertive personalities. Perhaps that's why they're into passive guys who keep to themselves?
I've never approached women first. They come to me. The year is 2022, feminism has been on the rise for a while now. Do I really need to start doing that to find a normal person?
You were talking about transitioning from here to real life in another thread. So I assume you were mentally ill before and got better etc.
I am mental. I show symptoms of NPD, Schizoid PD and OCD, but I am not diagnosed.
Maybe you still apply the same level of tolerance as before. But if you are normal you don't really need to. There is really no reason for normal people to want to hang out with pd people, [...]
What makes you put up with it? Start there.
Supply, satisfaction knowing others desire me. It is true I'm very tolerant. I lack empathy, so even if they've done terrible things, I wouldn't really mind as long as I'm not the one affected by their actions.
What would you do or how would you change if you were in my shoes?
I would probably change nothing because I would be mentally ill and somehow get something out of that dynamic. Basically, you answered every one of your questions yourself. Why do you even want to change? Also everyone shows some symptoms of mental illnesses and yes even more so of pd's, it is the whole cluster which makes up the disorder which renders your remarks irrelevant to the discussion. You want supply and attention and you get it that way so just do it. If you want to be less pathetic you can change your behavior. It is as simple as that. And yes I think you are capable of doing that just from how you write. What are you really looking to get from opening threads like this? If it is to cause others to find you interesting... yawn.
I've never approached women first. They come to me. The year is 2022, feminism has been on the rise for a while now. Do I really need to start doing that to find a normal person?
What are you really looking to get from opening threads like this? If it is to cause others to find you interesting... yawn.
Why is this a bad reason, though?
Girls with issues like that can like non-threatening men. Twinks, dad bod types, et al. Terrible boundaries is another thing you might suffer from. There's also the possibility you're so dead inside they want what they can't have. Really flips a switch sometimes. Anything ring a bell
