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Do you expect others to reciprocate?

on 6/23/2022
Posts: 180

Do you expect others to reciprocate when you help them at their lowest point?

Have you heard of a saying the first thing a blind person does when they opens their eyes is to get rid of the cane?

Please help me. I feel people owe me all the time and I keep a black book where I write what every favor I've done for people and I feel so angry and mad when my friends and family doesn't reciprocate and I feel they should just read my mind and know what I want and last night I was shouting at my ex-friend over the phone for not giving me a present for my birthday even though I gave him a present on his birthday. How can I fix this problem? I feel so entitled and I know I should change but sometimes I just get so mad I lose it and my husband is running with his new boyfriend when Im pregnant doing nothing useful after I spent years treating his depression and I feel so sad.

last edit on 6/23/2022 5:20:11 PM
on 6/23/2022
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You probably didn’t have enough sex with your husband, get over yourself.

on 6/23/2022
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Give yourself what you feel you lack. 

on 6/23/2022
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Bitch said:
Do you expect others to reciprocate?

What goes around comes around tends to work out fairly well, but it's not 100%. 

It's more of a potentials question, one of odds. If you don't help someone, then they have significantly lower odds of helping you later, while if you do it is not guaranteed that they will help you back, accept your help, or even recognize they received help in the first place. 

I tend to have a "The first one's free" mentality for doing favors, then I see how they take the aid and go from there. 

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on 6/23/2022
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that kind of thinking, ur hurting urself more than anyone. u have a chip on ur shoulder that has nothing to do with current events for the most part. u probably felt hard done by at a crucial time so u carry it around

on 6/23/2022
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"ex-friend"

on 6/24/2022
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You view relationships as transactions. You're not authentic when you give so that's why you get nothing back.   

I Took The Liberty Of Fertilizing Your Caviar.
on 6/24/2022
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You keep a logbook of favors you've done people? No wonder your friends and family avoid you.

on 6/24/2022
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Chapo said: 

You probably didn’t have enough sex with your husband, get over yourself.

Are you one of those people who believe in gay conversion camps?

Friedrich said: 

Give yourself what you feel you lack. 

What do you feel I lack that I can give myself? Aren't you the wise person.

Turncoat said: 

What goes around comes around tends to work out fairly well, but it's not 100%. 

It's more of a potentials question, one of odds. If you don't help someone, then they have significantly lower odds of helping you later, while if you do it is not guaranteed that they will help you back, accept your help, or even recognize they received help in the first place. 

I tend to have a "The first one's free" mentality for doing favors, then I see how they take the aid and go from there.

Would you give an example in your life when you gave the first one free and they didn't reciprocate please? What did they do?

natasha87 said: 

that kind of thinking, ur hurting urself more than anyone. u have a chip on ur shoulder that has nothing to do with current events for the most part. u probably felt hard done by at a crucial time so u carry it around

Oh so you're perfect. Why do you think I need help? I'm so infuriated by people like you who feel oh so mighty giving advice like you're above basic human instincts. Did you reach Nirvana already?

MissCommunication said: 

You view relationships as transactions. You're not authentic when you give so that's why you get nothing back.   

Why do you think I view relationships as transactional? Get over yourself and stop trying to offer help when you can't even take care of yoruself.

last edit on 6/24/2022 12:16:17 PM
on 6/24/2022
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Bitch said: 
Chapo said: 

You probably didn’t have enough sex with your husband, get over yourself.

Are you one of those people who believe in gay conversion camps?


 



Huh. That’s a funny question to ask this one.

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