I simply don't want to be bothered by it, and in practice I don't feel anyway about being cheated on the most part.
Interesting.
All a man wants is to get laid. Of course by today's standards I'd sound like the bad guy but really I'm looking after #1.
So I suppose you're not looking for depth in your relationships? Would that be a bonus, though? What's your view on monogamy? If you're living together with your partner and spending a large fraction of your time with them, it would seem like choosing someone you can both bang but also talk to would be wise? Assuming you've been brainwashed into monogamy by the culture around you or don't want to cheat on your partners.
Surely it's not impossible to find someone that you can talk to?
I'm all for monogamy. Having multiple partners is troublesome. Already I dislike holidays and what am I supposed to do on such days ? There are other reasons I'm for it. It's one thing I continued to believe in before I changed.
I do talk about stuff with my date and we have good times
Cheating is common and women do it more than guys. Easily more common than divorce. Intuitively we can see not all cheaters get caught.
Strange, I've only seen it once among my friend circles. Culture, maybe. I've seen couples from different cultures to my own "window shopping" for partners, kind of like how you look for work. Take the best offer, and treat it like it's a business transaction. It comes off kind of psychopathic.
When it happens people tend to keep a tight lid on it. Our friend circles are also rather small aren't they ? Other friends don't share secrets with us either. I can't say how often it happens among your people, but when it does it's unlikely they'd talk about it.
Partnerships are in effect business relations.
Or rather transformation if the dude wakes up and accepts the truth of him and the state of affairs between the 2 genders. Otherwise he'll be a simp, or he'll waste time trying to figure out if she's cheating on him, or get caught investigating her which makes him lose point regardness if she's cheating or not.
She wants to watch porn or masturbate with Ai, dude let her. Neither of those "things" care about her. She wants to have affairs, then treat her like a whore, or discard her if that makes you feel better ( it won't if she hurt you )
Treat her like a whore? I guess if you're alright with that. However, won't that hurt your mental health, credibility, and reputation in the long run?
It can. That's how it is for men. She can go bang other guys, but if her man took a healthier approach to getting cheated on, that's somehow a bad thing.
Some guys get destroyed when this happens and they lose contact and burn bridges then there's awkwardness and resentment, while other guys are like whatever, we'll have sex later or not.
Would other women still consider you if you treated your current woman like shit and had a toxic relationship with your ex, and lacked principles?
Those are some red flags if a lady friend brought that up to me. Don't treat the lady like shit.
Remember though. We're talking from the perspective of being cheated on. Some might say sticking around to be fuck buddies is taking easy as opposed to some other tragic ending we'd expect out of this. At that point she might want it to end anyway cause most likely she isn't the same. Besides chasing after her in grief WILL, make it worse.
When we lose, we have a chance to win, but that depends on how we handle the situation. Yes it will hurt, but we can recover from heartbreak very soon. The alternative is lower vibrational energies, grieving, sleeplessness, chest pains, mental attacks. When we realize the suffering itself is worse than the loss we can begin healing from it, and it's quicker than you think. When we do recover, we're bad ass and we feel great.
This is wisdom eh ?
Assuming you won't deceive them. Wouldn't you also be better off finding someone who doesn't have those problems? Or is that impossible? I find this argument to be similar to those people saying you shouldn't quit your toxic job because you just do it for the money. But the question is not "is it bad not to have money?". Instead, the question should be "is it worth it to risk losing financial security for a hypothetical (better) alternative?" Having an existing relationship is a time sink.
If the job is making the worker ill, then why live miserably ? Money isn't everything, or, it isn't supposed to be, making less does suck. I personally haven't worked for half a decade now.
When it comes to finding someone who doesn't have those problems... Well that's easier said than done my friend. We don't simply choose who we want to be with then get them. That's for hot chicks, and even they won't be content nor their her boyfriends because if she's smoking hot, then it's simply his turn, in most cases. Later on she'll have difficulty settling down cause she had so much cock, she won't know the best one and probably crave sex with other guys from time to time.
I understand I'll seem like a dick for not losing my shit or falling into other types of ruin we typically see when there's a fallout between lovers. But really, I've simply practiced the recovered state of being, which the brokenhearted need, or else they'll continue to suffer. Some people kill themselves over this stuff, because they lack wisdom, or don't even dare to aspire to accept the truth in the matter.
People are wired a certain way. Take the cuck for example. People laugh at these people and deem them pathetic, but when the shit hits the fan people need the cuck's powers, cause the cuck isn't going to lose any sleep getting cheating on. In my opinion that's admirable, simply because being cheated on is beyond our control.
If she cheats on you, and you're calling her down, cringing in your bed, crying, having nightmares, being the type of man no woman wants.... Just don't do it, or rather, don't let her do that to you. It's possible if you try, if the situation disgusts you acknowledge that and move away from it. You can even embrace the situation cause it'll make you strong and you'll evolve into a more powerful being. If not you'll devolve into a lesser state of being. Also if she returns don't be quick to take her back. This isn't a head game, but rather, you need to set the record with yourself as to why you'd take her back, and you'll need new rules. Or if you'll be fine repeating the same cycle. In a nutshell, "DO NOT take her back for relief." We need to find relief elsewhere or else we'll be prone to being codependent on someone we really shouldn't trust, and if we go about it the wrong way we'll be vulnerable for another dose of enfeebling on their mark.
My personal record from recovering from heartbreak is 2 or 3 months, and if it happens again I know it'll be sooner.
What I'm telling you doesn't come easy. We have to have gotten destroyed to become this way. When the pain beeps, just write it off as annoying and how you want it gone for starters. After that you'll have a different approach on relationships. Me I've been cheated on many times. That ex is a boomerang too. If you're a man you'll be on your own in this case. If you handle it well, you'll by default look like the bad guy. Like you were uncaring or something.
