19:43 Spatial Mind: Is there a prom at the end of it ?
19:43 Spatial Mind: 😐
19:43 Med: Lol
20:51 🌺plumeria🌺: I gav back the money
20:52 🌺plumeria🌺: I needed it but I couldn't take it
20:54 Spatial Mind: I'm not saying it was right but I see why BR kicked your ass.
20:55 NotCS: What!!!? Someone said med has no value? Who would have thought…?
20:55 🌺plumeria🌺: Why?
20:55 🌺plumeria🌺: Because I returned his money?
20:56 🌺plumeria🌺: Wow how horrible
20:56 🌺plumeria🌺: I gave back the money
20:56 🌺plumeria🌺: Oh dear me
20:56 Spatial Mind: You can't be helped
20:56 NotCS: He’s trying to provide for you as a husband should and you threw it back in his face, like you’re not his wife.
20:56 🌺plumeria🌺: Be specific
20:57 🌺plumeria🌺: No I gave it back because I don't want to use him
20:57 Spatial Mind: No money you complain, he gives you money you can't take it
20:57 NotCS: You do not act like you’re one with your husband, which you’re supposed to be no matter what.
20:57 🌺plumeria🌺: I complained back when we were together because I was paying for him
20:57 Spatial Mind: He wants you to have it and he wants you looked after
20:57 🌺plumeria🌺: It wasn't even about the money it was about how I felt like he was using me
20:58 🌺plumeria🌺: I think it's good he tried to make up for that
20:58 NotCS: He’s your husband. Your money is both of yours no matter who earned it.
20:58 🌺plumeria🌺: But I want him to be I. A stable situation
20:58 🌺plumeria🌺: I have the land to live on rn, he is on another island
20:58 NotCS: You make marriage look like a friendship.
20:58 🌺plumeria🌺: Cs you are retarded tbh
20:58 🌺plumeria🌺: And Tony I expect more from you
20:59 🌺plumeria🌺: Marriage IS a friendship
20:59 NotCS: I’m not. I know more about marriage than you and you’re married.
20:59 🌺plumeria🌺: No you don't.
20:59 NotCS: It’s not only a friendship though
20:59 NotCS: It’s a partnership and a union as well
20:59 🌺plumeria🌺: Yes but the fact that one of the factors of it is friendship is an important aspect
20:59 NotCS: You’re missing the Union part
21:00 NotCS: Not the most important. The unity is the most important. It ties everything else together.
21:00 🌺plumeria🌺: No, part of being a team is doing what's best for each other and right now we both need space
21:00 NotCS: But the issue that got you to needing space is the absence of unity.
21:00 NotCS: you just said you felt like he was using you.
21:00 NotCS: that can’t happen if you are one.
21:00 NotCS: if your money is his money, he can’t use you.
21:01 NotCS: At least not in a bad way.
21:01 🌺plumeria🌺: Yes but this will make us stronger as a couple, to be able to be apart. Co dependency is not healthy
21:01 🌺plumeria🌺: It's part of the root of a lot of issues we had
21:01 NotCS: he may be using you for support in a time when he is in crisis, but that’s how it’s supposed to be. You’re there for each other to lean on in hard times, through thick and thin.
21:01 Spatial Mind: Peircing yoursrlf won't make either of you happy. Use the money.
21:02 NotCS: Codependency is what marriage is about.
21:02 🌺plumeria🌺: No he was using me for support when he didn't feel like working, but obviously it's better now
21:02 NotCS: Being dependent on the other for everything
21:02 🌺plumeria🌺: No codependency is different than co reliability
21:02 Spatial Mind: He's going to lose patience
21:02 NotCS: Dude, if he didn’t feel like working, there was obviously something wrong
21:03 Spatial Mind: Maybe you'll be friends
21:03 🌺plumeria🌺: Neither of you understand the context enough to judge anything
21:03 NotCS: You were supposed to nurture him during that time, not push him away by being mad at him for “using” you.
21:03 🌺plumeria🌺: You act like you know so much, but you are not even here at all
21:03 🌺plumeria🌺: Says the queen of men leaching off her
21:04 Med: LOL
21:04 NotCS: Dude, we don’t need context because marriage comes with certain responsibilities and what you have said so far shows clearly that you do not understand thaf.
21:04 NotCS: That’s because I love guys and I treat them like we will be married one day, so I give myself to them completely and they take advantage if they want.
21:05 🌺plumeria🌺: ...
21:05 NotCS: Marriage is about being okay with being used at times because you take turns using each other. That’s the point. Who else can you count on during hard times?
21:05 🌺plumeria🌺: That's not he you treat any relationship including marriage
21:06 NotCS: Yes it is.
21:06 NotCS: Only marriage, but I get excited about every relationship, so I do things before it’s time.
21:06 NotCS: submit to your husband is what you’re supposed to do
21:07 NotCS: He didn’t have a job and needed to use your money, you should be honored to have the opportunity to take care of him.
21:07 NotCS: He should be when you need money and don’t feel like working too
21:07 NotCS: It’s a give and take. Sometimes you give and sometimes you take.
21:08 NotCS: Marriage is full of ups and downs and issues, but through it all you should know he loves and cares for you and doesn’t want to hurt you in any way, which means he isn’t using you. He’s relying on you in his time of need. It’s a change of prospective that
21:08 NotCS: You need
21:09 Spatial Mind: And hula gitls like white men and he's surrounded by thrm whole you're being hard
21:09 Spatial Mind: While*
21:09 NotCS: True, cheating comes easy to one who has done it before.
21:09 Spatial Mind: BR never cheated
21:09 🌺plumeria🌺: How dare you speak of the indigenous hawaiian people like that
21:09 Spatial Mind: I think
21:10 🌺plumeria🌺: You know nothing of them or their culture
21:10 Spatial Mind: It's true
21:10 NotCS: He did
21:10 🌺plumeria🌺: How do you know so much about hawaiian people? Have you ever even been to hawaii?
21:10 Spatial Mind: They bang white ppl too
21:10 NotCS: With girls online
21:10 NotCS: I have
21:10 🌺plumeria🌺: Too, you said preferred
21:10 NotCS: I’ve been to Maui
21:11 🌺plumeria🌺: Get your toxic white presenting male fantasy away from hawaiian indigenous people
21:11 Spatial Mind: I said like, not perferred
21:11 🌺plumeria🌺: Fair enough... But preference seemed implied
21:11 Spatial Mind: Hawaiian people are now diverse
21:12 NotCS: Very true
21:12 Spatial Mind: And they have sex with white ppl too
21:12 NotCS: True
21:12 Spatial Mind: Noah is a handsome fellow
21:12 NotCS: My ex’s cousin is married to a native Hawaiian guy.
21:12 🌺plumeria🌺: Trying to act like you weren't implying shit
21:12 🌺plumeria🌺: You could have said "men" then
21:12 NotCS: He is okay 👌
21:12 🌺plumeria🌺: Why say white people?
21:12 Spatial Mind: I'm totally implying shit
21:13 Spatial Mind: Cause Noah is white
21:13 NotCS: Also very true
21:13 🌺plumeria🌺: He's also a man, but you focus on his race, how does it have relevance in what you said unless it's a preference?
21:14 NotCS: Anyway, my marriage will be perfect because I know how to be married already and how to get through hard times.
21:14 Spatial Mind: Cause whites are a minority in Hawaii
21:14 Chaotik: https://youtu.be/MfAiB2ZoRhM
21:14 🌺plumeria🌺: I'm sick of this obsession with white people, "woman with creamy white skin" "bla bla bla love/like white men/women)
21:14 Spatial Mind: Hm. Creamy
21:14 🌺plumeria🌺: Every race is a minority here, so why focus on whiteness?
21:14 Spatial Mind: Sorry CS you black
21:15 🌺plumeria🌺: Stop your obsession with skin color it's annoying as hell
21:15 NotCS: I love my skin
21:15 🌺plumeria🌺: Yeah your skin is fine cs
21:15 NotCS: It’s sexy
21:15 🌺plumeria🌺: Very nice
21:15 🌺plumeria🌺: Yes
21:15 Spatial Mind: CS doesn't date black ppl
21:15 NotCS: Thanks 😊
21:16 🌺plumeria🌺: Well that's fucked up to
21:16 NotCS: Because of the genes, not the color
21:16 🌺plumeria🌺: Wtf
21:16 NotCS: I’d date a dark Indian guy
21:16 Spatial Mind: Oh you see the puny genes
21:16 NotCS: The color doesn’t matter, just the genes
