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Lenalee said: 

So not to invalidate anything but... What brought this up? 

Are they trying to contact you?

I just kind of assume everything she does is some ploy to push BT in a direction of some kind. 

 Well, yes but is it a matter of him not trusting what she said so she's trying to show she's got a witness(Tryp)? I don't understand the point of the thread or the structure.

 

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Lenalee said: 
Lenalee said: 

So not to invalidate anything but... What brought this up? 

Are they trying to contact you?

I just kind of assume everything she does is some ploy to push BT in a direction of some kind. 

 Well, yes

This is the crux of it for me, like when she made that Mirage topic. 

Her choice to have someone else narrate it for her reeks of the need to prove something. 

but is it a matter of him not trusting what she said so she's trying to show she's got a witness(Tryp)? I don't understand the point of the thread or the structure.

Fae's just trying to be manipulative again, whatever she's trying to prove in private to him may have little to nothing to actually do with her parents. 

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last edit on 12/8/2021 10:26:50 PM
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Lots of controlling stuff...more than just what one would expect from parents who care about the well-being of their kid, more into the territory of trying to micromanage their kid's life. To put this in perspective, she was an adult by the time all of this was all going on.

I believe she wanted to work, but that would mean being out of their sight/being around other people who could influence her thinking and decision making, so that was not allowed. I don't think she was ever allowed to stay overnight at friend's home either. The father's in IT, and used that knowledge to control electronics use in the house. Not doing anything the way they wanted would lead to grounding, and I think either the father or mother was beating her too. The house was rigged with sensors on the windows and doors so that if she tried to leave, an alarm would go off. I think one time she escaped because living there was making her suicidal and wanted to kill herself, but she couldn't get far from the house because her parents chased her down. I believe she got in trouble over all of that.

The dynamics in the house were bad, with her brother basically having almost normal freedom & being allowed to do what he wanted, but Feathers being held to a different standard. She would often be accused of doing things she wasn't doing. Her brother would bully her, and her parents would always take his side. They didn't want her making any decisions on her own, and they were against her going to school, unless it was something they wanted her to go there for (which I think at the time was culinary arts). Basically she had no freedom, didn't see any hope of it, and lived in constant fear of whatever the next thing was that would either disappoint her parents or get her in trouble. So she was constantly depressed and suicidal. Not like the "I'm so depressed, I can't visit my friends on the weekend" teen girl thing, but actually making attempts to kill herself.

When everything came to a fore and she decided to escape and start doing things her own way, she basically had to escape the house and bolt out into the neighborhood and hide. The whole time she was wracked with nervousness and paranoia because she didn't know what would happen if her parents found her; she only knew that they would not allow her to make any decisions on her own. I'm probably leaving out a lot, but that's enough to get a gist of what the situation was like.

 Does anyone think this is how marrysexuals are made ?  

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Lots of controlling stuff...more than just what one would expect from parents who care about the well-being of their kid, more into the territory of trying to micromanage their kid's life. To put this in perspective, she was an adult by the time all of this was all going on.

I believe she wanted to work, but that would mean being out of their sight/being around other people who could influence her thinking and decision making, so that was not allowed. I don't think she was ever allowed to stay overnight at friend's home either. The father's in IT, and used that knowledge to control electronics use in the house. Not doing anything the way they wanted would lead to grounding, and I think either the father or mother was beating her too. The house was rigged with sensors on the windows and doors so that if she tried to leave, an alarm would go off. I think one time she escaped because living there was making her suicidal and wanted to kill herself, but she couldn't get far from the house because her parents chased her down. I believe she got in trouble over all of that.

The dynamics in the house were bad, with her brother basically having almost normal freedom & being allowed to do what he wanted, but Feathers being held to a different standard. She would often be accused of doing things she wasn't doing. Her brother would bully her, and her parents would always take his side. They didn't want her making any decisions on her own, and they were against her going to school, unless it was something they wanted her to go there for (which I think at the time was culinary arts). Basically she had no freedom, didn't see any hope of it, and lived in constant fear of whatever the next thing was that would either disappoint her parents or get her in trouble. So she was constantly depressed and suicidal. Not like the "I'm so depressed, I can't visit my friends on the weekend" teen girl thing, but actually making attempts to kill herself.

When everything came to a fore and she decided to escape and start doing things her own way, she basically had to escape the house and bolt out into the neighborhood and hide. The whole time she was wracked with nervousness and paranoia because she didn't know what would happen if her parents found her; she only knew that they would not allow her to make any decisions on her own. I'm probably leaving out a lot, but that's enough to get a gist of what the situation was like.

 Does anyone think this is how marrysexuals are made ?  

 Marrysexuals?

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1 votes RE: My parents are crazy
Lenalee said: 
Lenalee said: 

So not to invalidate anything but... What brought this up? 

Are they trying to contact you?

I just kind of assume everything she does is some ploy to push BT in a direction of some kind. 

 Well, yes

This is the crux of it for me, like when she made that Mirage topic. 

Her choice to have someone else narrate it for her reeks of the need to prove something. 

Sigh

but is it a matter of him not trusting what she said so she's trying to show she's got a witness(Tryp)? I don't understand the point of the thread or the structure.

Fae's just trying to be manipulative again, whatever she's trying to prove in private to him may have little to nothing to actually do with her parents. 

 Yeah idk about that maybe she may think her abuse might seem too fantastical to be taken seriously. Especially when you have parents that may gaslight you into thinking no one will believe you? It might have been weirder to just suddenly invite Tryp to speak on the topic. Might have made it look like something it wasn't? This would have been a safer place then.

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 Yeah idk about that maybe she may think her abuse might seem too fantastical to be taken seriously. Especially when you have parents that may gaslight you into thinking no one will believe you? It might have been weirder to just suddenly invite Tryp to speak on the topic. Might have made it look like something it wasn't? This would have been a safer place then.

Well my parents have gaslit me. Even my first psychologist gaslit me saying I “misunderstood the situation“. I said “How did I misunderstand ? At Christmas once my mom said she’s inviting guests. I tried to be a good kid and made up the guest bed. Then she flipped the bed and locked me on the bathroom. I asked her what I did wrong… she said I made it too early and didn’t get her permission“. My new psychologist is much more understanding and I brought in a friend who witnesses current things my parents try to do. 

last edit on 12/8/2021 10:46:53 PM
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I bring it up TC cause my mom is threatening to beat up BT after I told her we were dating. She wants to ruin my happiness. She wants to ruin our happiness. She’s so controlling… 

 

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Now you want to ruin our happiness too. I can feel it… 

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I laugh at feathers having security system with sensors on doors and windows
 Is that not standard?
My parents didnt use the motion detector but certainly heard every time I left the house

My parents were overprotective, sheltering but I ran away a lot
 I think these things with your parents get better with time


Being that I was an only child, and that is unusual, my parents know far too much about me because I ended up telling them

I was going out to clubs at 13, 14

last edit on 12/8/2021 10:56:28 PM
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How old is faetherss? 

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