So firstly, on the issue of “wasted money,” this was a recurring topic concerning food. I insisted that keeping stock of food was necessary, as well as a variety of it for convenience and dietary reasons. We got stuff at Walmart and a small amount from local sellers…it wasn’t caviar, it was lunch meat, salad, ground beef, chicken, etc.
I thought this would be reasonable, self-evidently necessary, and not a fiscal problem for an attorney. That was met with arguments such as how poor people stay poor by overspending, her saying she can live off just ramen and the baby can eat baby food, etc. Didn’t make a lot of sense to me, but then a lot of things going on didn’t. Aside from that, all I can think of expense-wise was me asking her if she could help me get some computer equipment totaling like $150 or so, which made sense to me as I was covering $250 worth of food. I was drinking too, but we both were. Also while we were in a hotel, we ordered food. But this was obviously going to happen if I come from a halfway house to stay and help find a place.
Ultimately the reason [CS] ran out of money was that she wasn’t working and was getting drunk a lot…not that we bought groceries (something I insisted on in the first place as opposed to ordering food). But I think she already knows this.
As far as our last night together goes, she got pretty drunk around night time. I went to go hang out with her in the living room, and after some time she started acting weird. I expressed that I was going to head to the separate room for me and we could talk when she was sober. At that point she began following me and yelling at me, saying stuff like stay in the room and don’t come back out, etc.
I kept asking her to leave me alone (she’s in the room at this point), but she wasn’t hearing it. I took out my phone to record audio so she could hear it the next day, but she thought I was texting someone to get a ride to leave? She lunged for my phone, trying to wrestle it from me, screaming that I couldn’t text anyone until after she texted the guy she was dating before I came to stay with her a second time.
A struggle continued where she tried to get my phone, screaming. I told her I would call the police and they would take Jade, and she yelled “I DON’T FUCKING CARE!” And also that she would tell the cops I tried to rape her. She cracked the phone screen with her teeth and then chomped down on my thumb (my fingernail is still fucked months later). The glass from the phone is also cutting up my hands as I try to get it back. During this she was saying stuff like she was going to kill me in my sleep.
I did let go of the phone after she bit me, and she took off out of the room with it. I left the apartment and went down the street to call the police. I was able to use someone’s phone and waited for the police by a bus stop. After some time, she came down the street with Jade. She tried being sweet and apologizing, but my hands were bleeding and I wasn’t having it.
When she understood I was intent on getting the police involved, she gave me her phone, saying I broke her’s, and showing me my shattered phone which apparently she had tossed out the second story window. She tried to keep me from getting my phone back (it was evidence, I guess?) and tried to wrestle it from me on the ground while holding the crying baby and repeatedly screaming “I HAVE A CHILD!”, attempting to paint me into a corner if anyone responded.
I did get the broken phone back and went to a gas station to call the police. She followed me and hit her head against a brick wall twice, trying to make a mark to make it look like I hit her. By now my hands were bleeding on the floor in the 7/11 and the manager was yelling at me and shit. Eventually cops did come, while [CS] talked to some woman who would occasionally come over and imply that I was guilty of something.
Cops talked to us both separately. They took pictures of my hands and asked if I’d like to press charges (I declined). At some point CPS came and took her kid. Cops brought me back to the AirBNB and I gathered up my stuff. She was in the other room with a cop, laughing at one point…which was an interesting reaction from someone who just had their kid taken.
That’s the essence of what happened. She did send me 200 like a month later, I’m guessing for the phone. Considering she’s sent me money randomly in the past, bought me food, sent the 200, I’m not really angry about the phone or the incident in general.
As far as the stuff with her kid goes, that’s not on me at all. I was charitable enough to warn that authorities would take her kid, but she wasn’t interested.
Overall dopamine rating: 7 out of 10, would not live with again.
