i met up with her to give the keys back. told her everything. she tried to say i am also rigid in my beliefs. i said no it is you and bla bla after 2 hours i won it. it made me feel better. however, i feel this existential threat that natasha mentioned.
were u ever broken up with?
No... Now that I think about it, I haven't.
And yes.. I'm jealous of people who feel vibrantly in relationships and upon break up.
have u been in many long term relationships? and yea if faced with rejection you might feel differently
when you feel like shit. what are good copes? only positive things and in b4 u r a piece of shit and deserved this
It takes a long time, but the secret is to adopt the loss in a seemingly sick way.
Take the loss.
It's also realistic not to let others who are unfit manage your mood. Yet you allow it.
This means accepting your ego's death. To be honest that's why it hurts, your ego is insisting it survives. When you understand that you'll see that you're your worst enemy, then question how can you fix this. You'll then start reaching for healthier thoughts, such as, "fuck them, me first now cause I need go heal" and though there'll be thoughts that pop up and annoy you, you'll recognize it's time to fence with yourself.
It must come to a point where if they returned, you must kindly decline their offer. And do be polite about it, cause if you aggressively reject them, that would go to show you're not at peace with yourself.
Revenge is only sweet when you're in distress. When you're broken or carrying a grudge. This is a temporary relief for the weak.
Also. Know that it's greater to love than be loved. The majority will never love us, while those who love hold more.... How should I put this ? .... Those who love are better off in ways you wouldn't understand.
And no love is not painful. Never was and never will be. What hurts is a bruised ego, allowing itself to carry on in a way that no longer serves.
With these paragraphs in mind, In a nutshell the solution for you is to "Seek Transformation". If you don't, you'll suffer, like a dog with an electric collar who doesn't know it pierces itself as it keeps barking.