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I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

 Aw shit I feel dumb for writing this

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

 Aw shit I feel dumb for writing this

 Feel dumb, it's fine.  It doesn't make what you wrote worse or better.  It just changes how you feel about it.  Just observe that.

Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

 Aw shit I feel dumb for writing this

 Feel dumb, it's fine.  It doesn't make what you wrote worse or better.  It just changes how you feel about it.  Just observe that.

 Hehehe yeah. I guess so.

Do you think my goals are unrealistic? Is it possible to care for your parents when they are old AND your disabled little brother AND your blind grandmother? She's not blind yet

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

 Aw shit I feel dumb for writing this

 Feel dumb, it's fine.  It doesn't make what you wrote worse or better.  It just changes how you feel about it.  Just observe that.

 Hehehe yeah. I guess so.

Do you think my goals are unrealistic? Is it possible to care for your parents when they are old AND your disabled little brother AND your blind grandmother? She's not blind yet

 Goals are only as realistic as the plans you make for them.  You don't have to do it all by yourself.  You need to ask around and find out all your resources available.

Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

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Buttered Toast said: 

I appreciate you are airing out your thoughts and probably not interested in a response.

But try and use this to release these feelings of self-persecution.  There is no value in being a martyr in your own head, or even elsewhere, almost all of the time.  If there is anyone who should be forgiving and understanding of you, it's yourself.  You will just end up making yourself your own enemy, and that's something you can only win by surrendering.

There are more constructive ways of self-talk.  Build up instead of hammer down.

 I'm just trying to be honest with myself. if I tried to tell myself nice things it wouldn't feel real, I dont want to be delusional  I guess.

Also, I appreciate your tips 

Your my friend and your not a loser so I take what you say into consideration 

 It's fine, but just be aware of this -- that it's your own doing, your own thinking, your own self-opinion.  The trick is trying to unconvince yourself you can't change it.  We all tell ourselves things in order to convince ourselves.  If nothing else, it is at least a gap you can wedge a crowbar in when you need to, to help yourself.

 Your right. There's no point in self criticism if you beat yourself up so much you think you can't improve . I can change it. I changed how I was overweight right? I changed being as naive as I used to be- so I can change other things about myself.  

I can make chronic pain my bitch, and I know I will because I have succeeded at other things before 

And I WILL make a sanctuary for my grandmother and care for her before she goes blind. I WILL take care of my disabled brother, and my old parents,  and I will become rich enough to do it. 

Her vision is going but not quickly . I will work fast and she will see her home so that by the time she's blind she will know how beautiful it is.

It's a high bar to set and I have self doubt but that doesn't mean I am incapable 

I can do it, I'll do it for my family. 

I can become rich. 

It's ok that I'm stressed 

 Aw shit I feel dumb for writing this

 Feel dumb, it's fine.  It doesn't make what you wrote worse or better.  It just changes how you feel about it.  Just observe that.

 Hehehe yeah. I guess so.

Do you think my goals are unrealistic? Is it possible to care for your parents when they are old AND your disabled little brother AND your blind grandmother? She's not blind yet

 Goals are only as realistic as the plans you make for them.  You don't have to do it all by yourself.  You need to ask around and find out all your resources available.

 Yes